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jendoll5

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AlexElizabethC

Ive  seen many weddings with the MOH wearing a different dress and it looked good! Also, if she is about to pop, most people will be paying attention to her belly, not her dress (as long as they are not drastically different). At Davids bridal, they have lots of dresses that would work with pregnant women but also look greeat on everyone else too! You should check it out!

trix1223

Yes, and it's very, very easy.  Should the MOH be pregnant, let her wear a maternity dress in the same color as the other BMs.  Done and done.

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:301ae667-b461-43c9-9320-f35af14fb253">Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]So, my MOH just informed/reminded me that she is attempting to have a baby and most likely will be ready to pop by my wedding day. While I am not planning to kick her out by any means...the dresses that I originally decided on are pretty form fitting and dont leave any room for pregnancy.  I would hate to put a dress on my other  bridesmaids that isnt going to flatter them AT ALL.  So Im torn on what to do.  I really didnt want to <strong>have my team </strong>wearing different dresses but I think Im to a point where I dont have a choice. Any suggestions????
Posted by jendoll5[/QUOTE]

Your  TEAM?  Really?

saxy414

Not that it will really matter at all if any of your BMs are in different dresses, but it's especially easy with MsOH.  It's fairly common for the MOH to be in a different dress, so just help her find either a maternity dress or a looser fitting/empire waist dress that she's comfortable in for the wedding.

saxy414

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:69c7ab76-6f33-46e0-928e-6bbf7bd0d06c">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Pregnant Bridesmaid : Your  TEAM?  Really?
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

I wasn't really sure what to make of that.  I just giggled when I read it.

jaimed99

TEAM BRIDE!

Ok, now that I got THAT out of my system...

I agree with PPs...and you're also going on a MAYBE...I was TTC for two years before I finally was able to conceive my son...so you don't even know if MOH will be pregnant then, or if so, how far along. While I'm sure that she hopes to be pregnant by your wedding, neither you nor your MOH should even been taking this into consideration until she's actually pregnant.

Relax, have a glass of wine, and enjoy your wedding planning

orangecrush32

If she's not currently pregnant than this is a nonissue. Your BMs can hold off on ordering the dress for several months still, so if she happens to get pregnant between now and then you can ask this question at that time.

Summer2011Bride

Like PP's have said, don't cross this bridge until you get to it, as she is not even pregnant now.
If she is pregnant at the time of the wedding, no one will think anything of her wearing a different dress because she is pregnant. I wouldn't worry about it. Let her wear one she is comfortable in if she happens to be expecting at that time.

Jookie77

I wouldn't be worried, at this point, at what may or may not happen 10 months from now. Sometimes it takes a while to conceive. Of my 7 BMs, three are actively trying to get pregnant. My wedding is 9 months away. They are picking their dresses from DB (I chose the color and length) and luckily they can wait til pretty close to the wedding before they pick their dress. With all the stress and whatnot that might come with wedding planning, this is something I can't worry about. I wouldn't if I were you either.

And I like the idea of MOH having a different dress from the rest of the WP. It makes them look special

aerinpegadrak

If anyone seriously expects a heavily pregnant woman to be wearing the same dress as everyone else, regardless of titles, their insanity is their own concern, not yours.

DNAtime

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:8600e85b-073d-4974-bbc1-4afc28531582">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Not that it will really matter at all if any of your BMs are in different dresses, but it's especially easy with MsOH.  It's fairly common for the MOH to be in a different dress, so just help her find either a maternity dress or a looser fitting/empire waist dress that she's comfortable in for the wedding.
Posted by saxy414[/QUOTE]
I agree with this.  But I also agree until she is acutally pregnant, don't lose sleep over this. In fact, even if she is pregnant don't lose sleep over it.  No one expects a pregnant/showing BM to be in the same dress as everyone else, despite what bridal advertisements will suggest. 
Now, get out there and win this wedding, coach!

lauraalanna

Whoever made the crack about "your team...really" needs to stop posting.

This is a forum for brides trying to get through a tough time so STOP COMMENTING.

With that said,one of my bridesmaids will be 7.5 months pregnant at the time of my wedding and we thinking about ordering her dress 2 sizes larger than her normal dress size-give or take a size or so.

I went through HELL trying to pick out a bridesmaids dress so there is no way I'm picking another one. Plus my preggo maid is completely happy with ordering it larger-it was her suggestion.

I have also heard that empire waste dresses are flattering for pregnant women in general so perhaps that might be an option.

Good luck!

AutumnFair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:64ad6ca9-1818-4fb4-be59-ae0d6de4c3db">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Whoever made the crack about "your team...really" needs to stop posting. This is a forum for brides trying to get through a tough time so STOP COMMENTING. With that said,one of my bridesmaids will be 7.5 months pregnant at the time of my wedding and we thinking about ordering her dress 2 sizes larger than her normal dress size-give or take a size or so. <strong>I went through HELL trying to pick out a bridesmaids dress so there is no way I'm picking another one.</strong> Plus my preggo maid is completely happy with ordering it larger-it was her suggestion. I have also heard that empire waste dresses are flattering for pregnant women in general so perhaps that might be an option. Good luck!
Posted by lauraalanna[/QUOTE]

Umm, if you are going insane over a dress then you need to chillax and realize that a wedding shouldn't cause you that much stress. Seriously it's a dress, it won't make or break your wedding, it really blows my mind that Brides get so worked up over simple materialistic things that really have no meaning.

misslauraalanna

Why do you even care what I say when it doesn't concern you?

Please have some class and either learn to ignore other people's comments or just deal with it.

I think you need to stop obsessing over what I say and worry about your own life.

lalap69

1) This is a public forum, you don't get to dictate the responses you get or tell people that they can't post.  You're freaking out for no reason.  CALM DOWN.

2) Your wedding is still 10 months away.  You shouldn't even be picking BM dresses out this early, and certainly not requiring them to order.  This is true for all of your girls, not just MOH.  Their weights may fluctuate, MOH may or may not get pregnant, unless they've all taken vows of celibacy, any of your BMs could become pregnant.  It's WAY TOO EARLY.

3)  If when it is it time to order dresses, MOH is in fact pregnant, then let her wear a maternity dress in the same or a coordinating colour.

trix1223

Wow!  I have been told to stop posting. 

Sweetcakes (aka lauralanna):  it's poor form to start telling people what they can and can't post on a public message board.  I'll give you the benefit of the doubt because you're new and don't have a sense of the boards yet.  It's always a good idea to lurk first before telling people off.

Had I said anything out of line, banana (the mod) or squirrley (the interim mod) would have deleted it.

You're not starting off well.  Not well at all.

Perhaps you should take your own advice.  You remember the part where you wrote:  Please have some class and either learn to ignore other people's comments or just deal with it.

lauraalanna

Very true about taking my own advice; point well taken.

However, I posted here like 2 days ago and the comments I received were VERY inappropraite and definitely taken out of context and assumed the worst.

I thought this was supposed to be a place for brides-to-be to seek advice and give advice but the only thing I've found it to be is a place where if you don't say the EXACT right thing to the right person,you get executed.

Yes,I am definitely "new to the boards" but I shouldn't have to worry about advice I give to other people...if they want to take it,that's great! If not,then they don't...but by no means necessary should a member, old or new, be put down just because they give advice that may be a little out of left field.

I don't really care if I'm starting off well or not,I came here to seek advice over a bridesmaid issue and people have just been so rude,critical,and took every little detail I said out of context instead of giving POSITIVE advice.

Isn't that why we are all here? It's a stressful time to a bride right now and advice should be given in a positive tone instead of immature "ew's" and "you're off your rocker".

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:78012d96-28f5-4bd5-addc-33fd4fa18fb2">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Why do you even care what I say when it doesn't concern you? Please have some class and either learn to ignore other people's comments or just deal with it. I think you need to stop obsessing over what I say and worry about your own life.
</strong>Posted by misslauraalanna[/QUOTE]

Uhh...hate to break it to you, but if you post anything on a public message board, you are inviting everyone else to read and comment.  You are tacitly saying, this does concern you; please comment.

...and one post is far from obessing about your every little word.

mikeynkrib2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:1bd6c95f-4166-40c8-afac-88bb907d0cdf">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]1) This is a public forum, <strong>you don't get to dictate the responses you get</strong> or tell people that they can't post.  You're freaking out for no reason.  CALM DOWN. 2) Your wedding is still 10 months away.  You shouldn't even be picking BM dresses out this early, and certainly not requiring them to order.  Posted by lalap69[/QUOTE]

boy you shot yourself in the foot on that one.  just so i get this straight....if a person replies to the OP, nobody has the right to dictate their response....but yet, <em>you</em> have a right to dictate someones response to the person who posted?

tad hypocritical.

and, who cares when the bride asks the girls to order their dresses?  it's not your wedding and just because YOU don't think she should order them ten months in advance doesn't mean she can't or shouldn't.   a constructive comment would have been "You should still have plenty of time to order dresses...maybe give it a few months and re-evaluate" rather than slamming her choice to look  and be concerned now.  you're totally dismissive of her decisions and making it all about you.

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:8a3b67b2-13cf-4c38-9304-2fc623e9cd9f">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Very true about taking my own advice; point well taken. However,<strong> I posted here like 2 days ago and the comments I received were VERY inappropraite and definitely taken out of context and assumed the worst.</strong> I thought this was supposed to be a place for brides-to-be to seek advice and give advice but the only thing I've found it to be is a place where if you don't say the EXACT right thing to the right person,you get executed. Yes,I am definitely "new to the boards" but I shouldn't have to worry about advice I give to other people...if they want to take it,that's great! If not,then they don't...but by no means necessary should a member, old or new, be put down just because they give advice that may be a little out of left field. I don't really care if I'm starting off well or not,I came here to seek advice over a bridesmaid issue and people have just been so rude,critical,and took every little detail I said out of context instead of giving POSITIVE advice. Isn't that why we are all here? It's a stressful time to a bride right now and advice should be given in a positive tone instead of immature "ew's" and "you're off your rocker".
Posted by lauraalanna[/QUOTE]

I just found the thread.  You told a bride tht she could demote her MOH to bridesmaid.  Do you have any idea how many problems this could cause.  You only "demote" or kick out if you want to end a friendship. 

We didn't all read some manual to learn what you term the proper response.  We are all speaking from life experience, many times including our own weddings. 

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:8a3b67b2-13cf-4c38-9304-2fc623e9cd9f">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Very true about taking my own advice; point well taken. However, I posted here like 2 days ago and the comments I received were VERY inappropraite and definitely taken out of context and assumed the worst.<strong> I thought this was supposed to be a place for brides-to-be to seek advice and give advice</strong>

<em>It is a place to seek and get advice.  Don't confuse that with validation of every bad idea that one tosses out.  You'll get advice here that will mirror what others are thinking but won't say to you because they don't want to hurt your feelings.  We are not invested in your feelings, so we can be very, bluntly honest.
</em>
but the only thing I've found it to be is a place where if you don't say the EXACT right thing to the right person<strong>,you get executed.</strong>

<em>That's a little over the top.  "Executed"?  Really?  Flamed perhaps, but tone down the rhetoric.</em>

Yes,I am definitely "new to the boards" but I shouldn't have to worry about advice I give to other people...<strong>if they want to take it,that's great! If not,then they don't...but by no means necessary should a member, old or new, be put down just because they give advice that may be a little out of left field.</strong>

<em>Here's the concern:  you give advice that is likely to blow up in people's faces  You disagree with our advice and say so, boldly.  Well, if others disagree with your advice, then they're free to say so, boldly.</em>

 I don't really care if I'm starting off well or not,I came here to seek advice over a bridesmaid issue and people have just been so rude,critical,and took every little detail I said out of context instead of giving POSITIVE advice.

 Isn't that why we are all here?<strong> It's a stressful time</strong> to a bride right now and advice should be given in a positive tone instead of immature "ew's" and "you're off your rocker".

<em>Sorry, but planning a party to celebrate marrying the love of your life should NOT be considered "stressful".  Both of my DD's were in, literally, life threatening situations within three months of each other this year.  That's stressful.  </em>

<em>I think that all too often, brides to be buy into the whole OMG!!!11!!!!!111!!! I'm getting married, and it's just SOOOOOOOOOOO hard, and there's so much to worry about.  It's not.  The wedding industry, the wedding tv shows, the wedding magazines, and the wedding websites would have you believe that you must worry and stew over what are, in reality, pretty inconsequential details or your wedding won't be a success.  And that's just silly.</em>

<em>Finally:  if you want affirmation and puppies and rainbows, may I suggest that you try out the local boards.  They might be more of what you're seeking.

GL</em>
Posted by lauraalanna[/QUOTE]

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:ef1da0aa-095b-4adb-8ed0-c4072c2775d6">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid : boy you shot yourself in the foot on that one. <strong> just so i get this straight....if a person replies to the OP, nobody has the right to dictate their response....but yet, you have a right to dictate someones response to the person who posted?</strong> tad hypocritical. and, who cares when the bride asks the girls to order their dresses?  it's not your wedding and just because YOU don't think she should order them ten months in advance doesn't mean she can't or shouldn't.   a constructive comment would have been "You should still have plenty of time to order dresses...maybe give it a few months and re-evaluate" rather than slamming her choice to look  and be concerned now.  you're totally dismissive of her decisions and making it all about you.
Posted by mikeynkrib2011[/QUOTE]

No, you don't have it straight at all.  Lalap never told anyone to stop posting; she only disagreed with the advice that was given to OP.  Laura told Trix that she needed to stop posting because Laura did not like what Trix had to say.

mikeynkrib2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:633b7d1f-2118-4c72-a024-ebded59bc430">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid : No, you don't have it straight at all.  Lalap never told anyone to stop posting; she only disagreed with the advice that was given to OP. <strong> Laura told Trix that she needed to stop posting because Laura did not like what Trix had to say.
</strong>Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

and lalap also said we don't get to dictate responses....so laura has every right to say stop posting.  freedom of expression and speech folks, i don't care if this is a public board or not.  i think you all need to deal with laura's blunt opinion the same way you expect the OP to deal with yours. 

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:f66be7d5-f9e3-4302-8348-a6610fb74b9d">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid : and lalap also said we don't get to dictate responses....so laura has every right to say stop posting.  freedom of expression and speech folks, i don't care if this is a public board or not.  i think you all need to deal with laura's blunt opinion the same way you expect the OP to deal with yours. 
Posted by mikeynkrib2011[/QUOTE]

darlin':  I have dealt with laura's blunt opinion.  I wasn't the one who told her to stop posting, but Laura felt free to tell me that I should stop posting because she didn't like one of my comments.

lalap69

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:ef1da0aa-095b-4adb-8ed0-c4072c2775d6">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid : boy you shot yourself in the foot on that one.  just so i get this straight....if a person replies to the OP, nobody has the right to dictate their response....but yet, you have a right to dictate someones response to the person who posted? tad hypocritical. and, who cares when the bride asks the girls to order their dresses?  it's not your wedding and just because YOU don't think she should order them ten months in advance doesn't mean she can't or shouldn't.   a constructive comment would have been "You should still have plenty of time to order dresses...maybe give it a few months and re-evaluate" rather than slamming her choice to look  and be concerned now.  you're totally dismissive of her decisions and making it all about you.
Posted by mikeynkrib2011[/QUOTE]
Show me where I dictated any responses?

lalap69

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:f66be7d5-f9e3-4302-8348-a6610fb74b9d">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid : and lalap also said we don't get to dictate responses....so laura has every right to say stop posting.  freedom of expression and speech folks, i don't care if this is a public board or not.  i think you all need to deal with laura's blunt opinion the same way you expect the OP to deal with yours. 
Posted by mikeynkrib2011[/QUOTE]
Freedom of Speech - it does not mean what you think it means.  I am not the government, therefore freedom of speech cannot possibly apply.

And there's a really big difference between saying "um, no, that's terrible advice" and saying "stop posting on this message board."  No one, except for a mod, can do that.  I mean sure you can say "stop posting!" no one can really stop you, but nobody's going to actually stop posting because you said so because you have no power to enforce it.

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:f66be7d5-f9e3-4302-8348-a6610fb74b9d">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid : and lalap also said we don't get to dictate responses....so laura has every right to say stop posting.  freedom of expression and speech folks, i don't care if this is a public board or not.  i think you all need to deal with laura's blunt opinion the same way you expect the OP to deal with yours. 
Posted by mikeynkrib2011[/QUOTE]

Oh please don't make me explain the reasons why the First Amendment doesn't apply to these boards.  I don't have that kind of time.


You don't get to tell somebody to stop posting or to not be "mean."  We are sure as hell going to call out bad advice though.  You don't get to tell somebody to do something that will backfire on them and make the situation worse without the worry of being told you are wrong.

Laura's post:

<em>Whoever made the crack about "your team...really" needs to stop posting.

This is a forum for brides trying to get through a tough time so STOP COMMENTING.

</em>Lalap's post:
<em>This is a public forum, you don't get to dictate the responses you get or tell people that they can't post.  You're freaking out for no reason.  CALM DOWN.
</em>
You honestly can't see the difference?

mikeynkrib2011

it's america and the first amendment applies everywhere.

we all agree that people can say whatever they like on here.

 my point to lalap was that she was being hypocritical because she was telling laura that you DON'T get to say whatever you like when she said  AND I QUOTE "you don't get to dictate the responses you get or tell people they can't post".

soooooo......lalap just told laura she isn't allowed to say stop posting.....please tell me how that's not dictating (or at least attempting to) someone elses response?

my point is, laura has a right to say it and lalap tried to tell her she didn't.  HYPOCRITICAL.  and you're right, it doesn't mean that the person HAS to stop commenting.  but laura still had a right to voice that she thought the person should stop.

tidetravel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:11631a8a-0673-4a7a-96e2-b8815425b40b">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]it's america and the first amendment applies everywhere. we all agree that people can say whatever they like on here.  my point to lalap was that she was being hypocritical because she was telling laura that you DON'T get to say whatever you like when she said  AND I QUOTE "you don't get to dictate the responses you get or tell people they can't post". soooooo......lalap just told laura she isn't allowed to say stop posting.....please tell me how that's not dictating (or at least attempting to) someone elses response? my point is, laura has a right to say it and lalap tried to tell her she didn't.  HYPOCRITICAL.  and you're right, it doesn't mean that the person HAS to stop commenting.  but laura still had a right to voice that she thought the person should stop.
Posted by mikeynkrib2011[/QUOTE]
Me thinks it's time you go back to your local board. 

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_pregnant-bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:474262f6-c902-47e3-a44f-95f40602b9abPost:11631a8a-0673-4a7a-96e2-b8815425b40b">Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>it's america and the first amendment applies everywhere.</strong>we all agree that people can say whatever they like on here.  my point to lalap was that she was being hypocritical because she was telling laura that you DON'T get to say whatever you like when she said  AND I QUOTE "you don't get to dictate the responses you get or tell people they can't post". soooooo......lalap just told laura she isn't allowed to say stop posting.....please tell me how that's not dictating (or at least attempting to) someone elses response? my point is, laura has a right to say it and lalap tried to tell her she didn't.  HYPOCRITICAL.  and you're right, it doesn't mean that the person HAS to stop commenting.  but laura still had a right to voice that she thought the person should stop.
Posted by mikeynkrib2011[/QUOTE]

Actually, no it doesn't.  The first amendment guarantees that the government cannot restrict your speech.   Because you agree to terms of service before you post, this is a private forum where mods can remove your posts or ban you outright if you break any terms of service.  In short, the first amendment does not apply here.  There is no government involvement in these boards.  Others who are still in law school can explain it in much more detail than I can.

And if you can't see the difference between "SHUT UP!!! You're being mean and shouldn't post" and "The advice you gave is horrible and oh by the way, you don't get to tell somebody to stop posting" then I just give up.