Etiquette?

irishxmyst

Ok, this is not exactly a WP question, but I know a bunch of you ladies are sticklers for etiquette and I would like to know the proper etiquette for this situation.

FI and I have registered online to some places so our guests can shop either online or in store.  For the registry websites, they ask us to specify a contact & contact info, someone the guest can ask if they are having problems with the online registry or just questions about our registry or the gifts in general.

Since I know we are never supposed to put registry info on save the dates, invites, or anywhere other than our wedding website and we should allow our parents or WP to spread the word on registries, would it be a faux pas to list either myself or my FI as the registry contact on the registry? I can see where it may be awkward answering questions about our own stuff ("Well your Aunt Gene and I were going to go halves on that china set, and we can't get to the store, how do we do that from the online?" or "Oh well now that I have you on the phone, would you prefer x or y?"). However, considering our parents are not techno-savvy, I'm not sure if they'd be comfortable being listed as the go-to person.  I'm also not sure if anyone in our WP would be cool with having their phone number posted on a website for anyone to see.  At the same time I do not want to leave my guests without a contact for help.

Any suggestions?

banana468

This really shouldn't be that big a deal for them.  Instead of looking for a contact person, I'd wait until there's a pre-wedding party.  Then, if your MOH and BMs get together to throw a shower, see if they'd be OK with being the contact person since they may be fielding questions from guests anyway. 

If not, I'd default to your parents and do a little internet 'splaining to them since they're also likely to have to field questions from other friends and relatives.

emilyinchile

I'd probably go with your parents too just because of the potential awkwardness you listed. Hopefully people would go to the contact person with questions about the substance of your registry and take any internet questions to the store itself, so your parents shouldn't have to do too much tech support.

Mimi63

Are you positive that the guests are being given your information? We have a few different registries, one of them being Amazon, so it is only online, and none of them give the guests more then our names, wedding date, and gifts. The contact information might just be for the registry information to get to you.  

If I am wrong.. I personally think that it is okay to have yourself as the registry person. People are going to make sure that they get what you want. Even if your parents are the contact person listed, they might still contact you knowing that you and your mom might not view the registry items the same way.

mbcdefg

My guess is that most of the people who might end up having problems with an online registry would be people in generations older than ours. And I'm also guessing that, if those people have problems, they're probably going to make a phone call to your parents or anyone they happen to know in your wedding party (siblings, cousins, etc.).

So my advice is to not worry about it too much. If people have problems, they will probably reach out to someone they already know. If I have a registry question when I receive a shower invitation, I usually contact someone that I already know - be it the bride's mother, a bridesmaid that I'm friends with, etc. Even if the invite or the registry info said othethat another person was the contact.

megk8oz

I didn't have a registry, so I don't really know for sure ... but I'm thinking anybody that would have questions would probably call your parents or a BP member anyway. Speaking from my own personal opinion, I wouldn't feel comfortable calling up a bride and saying "Listen, I'm trying to shop for you, but I epic fail at the internet".

I don't really think it's wrong to have yourself listed as the contact ... I just don't think too many people would feel right about contacting you.