SO many nieces and nephews..help!!

stayceches

So, I have one niece and one nephew (6 and 1 1/2) that mean the world to me. And I definitely want them in my wedding. (My niece is already asking to be my flower girl ) BUT, my husband-to-be has THIRTEEN nieces/nephews. Plus two very young brother and sister. All of these children are under the age of 12. I don't want to leave anyone out, but I don't want to have a plethora of flower girls and ring bearers...Does anyone have any sugggestions as to how I address this? Any other spots they could fill that I haven't thought of? Thanks in advance!

trix1223

With that many children, I think you make them all guests.  It's just way too many to make part of the ceremony, and having just your niece and nephew and excluding the groom's nieces and nephews will not put you in a positive spotlight at all.

The only thing I could suggest is using just your FI's much younger siblings as the FG and RB and leave all nieces and nephews out of the WP.  They're siblings, and it makes all the nieces/nephews equal.

Good luck.

McKenna2012

If you try to put them all in, it is just going to be a mass of little kids parading in, and it sounds like they would outnumber the adults involved in your wedding party.   I agree with Trix about maybe just going with the siblings to create the fairest scenario.

MelissaAnne88

I agree with PPs - just include your FI's siblings and call it a day.

calbre8

I agree. I'm getting married in July and have 17 nieces and nephews. I've decided not to have any flower girls or ring bearers because I don't want any of the kids to feel left out. We're sticking with 2 (adult) people each for the wedding party. If you really want to have a FG and RB, it's very convenient that FI had a little bro and sis.

LenaF

FI and I have 13 nieces and nephews (2 on my side, 11 on his) and there will be another one added by the time we have our wedding. That being said, we are having his niece as our FG and my 2 nephews as RB's. While I am sad we can't have all the kids in the WP, it would just be CRAZY trying to get all the kids to behave and do what's needed (ie. walking down without fighting ) We picked the kids that we were close to us to be in our WP.  I would def. go with the siblings of your FI. That way you aren't leaving any nieces or nephews out and it's more understandable. Or you can just choose not to have any kids at all. Up to you though. Good Luck!

chocoholic4life

I agree that you have to make a cutoff somewhere, but I'm not sure that you need to leave out your niece and nephew if they are really close to you.  You could have 2 flower girls (your neice and FI's sister) and 2 ring bearers (your nephew and FI's brother).  That way, there are 2 kids from each side of the family to keep things somewhat fair.  If you decide to only go with one of each, I really think it should be FI's siblings though. 

mellimel19

I can definitely sympathize, as I'm in a similar boat. I only have one nephew, and I absolutely want him to be the ring bearer. I can't imagine him not being the RB. However, FI has 8 nieces and nephews, varying in age from a few months to 15 years old. I don't think that the 2 boys on his side care about being in the WP, but I KNOW that his nieces, especially those ages 11-13, are all eager to be. One has said she wants to be the flower girl, and another has said she wants to be a junior bridesmaid. I don't intend on having any junior bridesmaids, and we were thinking of just choosing FI's niece/goddaughter to be the FG. However, I feel really badly because I know the other girls will be disappointed. It's a tough decision, and one I plan on putting off for as long as possible lol.