Bachelorette Party Poll

demarcosjd

Hi Ladies,

I also posted this on my local board and figured I would try it out here. Just looking for some ideas as to how you handled your bachelorette party or if you let your bridal party handle everything.

aerinpegadrak

The bachelorette party isn't yours to plan.  It gets thrown for you if someone chooses to do it.  If no one throws one, you don't have one.

stina93446

Ditto what Aerin said.  It would be weird to help plan your own party.

demarcosjd

I'm sorry I didn't mean to plan it. I should have worded it better. Example, My sister is my MOH the idea is to go to Atlantic City so she asked me what my top three things to do would be and then they will plan it from that. I guess I should have said did you contribute to hotel costs, tables at clubs etc or your bridal party paid for everything?

MyNameIsNot

My sister planned mine, and I asked her what I needed to put up for the group things and planned to cover my own dinner and drinks, but they wouldn't let me.  I treated everyone to breakfast.  She asked me for ideas for what I wanted to do, and I chose the part of town where we hung out. 

If she's asking you for things you'd like to do, definately throw some ideas out there, but mention that you don't expect them to go overboard and spend a bunch of money.  

stina93446

In that case, yes I did. Me and one of my bms went to Vegas. We both paid our own way for a pole dancing class and a male revue. I would never want her to foot the entire bill.

emilyinchile

It hasn't happened yet, but I'm pretty sure they're treating. The BM who's organizing asked for ideas of what to do, and in the end we're all going to have a girly night at someone's house, with stereotypical games and fun drinks - that's all I know. If it were something that I knew was going to be more expensive, I would definitely offer to cover some of the cost just because I'd rather everyone participate and me pay as well than have some people unable to come because of price.

aerinpegadrak

I gave my MOH ideas more toward the general vibe I was hoping for when she asked: I'm kind of laid-back, and bar-hopping just isn't my thing.  I haven't really mentioned anything specific.

megk8oz

I didn't have one.

Unless you count my brother and sister's friend (Who was also my sister's date to the wedding) "1/2-stripping" in front of me before crashing on our couch the night before the wedding.

banana468

My MOH said, "What sort of things would you prefer?" but beyond that, the BP just went with it. 

Kee0425

This is funny! About two weeks ago my MOH asked me the same question. I'm pretty laid back and will appreciate anything they do the only "requests" I made was…..invite my aunts(all under 55yrs old) and let's do something my 18yr old cousin can participate in. Everything else is up to them.

cellarius

usually it's paid for you & thrown for you so other ppl handle the costs. [this is not always the case though.. & like baby showers more ppl are throwing their own] with that said plenty of ppl help plan their own bachelor/ette parties or like you mentioned say top things they would really like to do. usually they plan it with you. it's not normally a surprise. i've never known anyone who wasn't involved in the planning. most ppl i know go out & party or on a weekend trip to nyc or something. i think my maids & i are just going to a spa for a wkend while FI hangs out with his gm but then we're doing a joint party one night. anyway while hotel & trip costs i'd assume you don't pay for unless they asked, i'd bring money for the other things, like drinking, meals, gambling etc esp if you're in ac

ipwtfa91

I thought you meant financially, so I voted yes...I'm paying my share of everything I possibly can to help out my BMs

cukimerrydoll

My sis/MOH is planning it, but she's running things past me to make sure the other BMs and I will have fun too.  But when she was telling me her idea for it (it does involve a small road trip, so advanced notice is necessary), it was basically exactly what I had in mind!

jacki4875

My best friend helped plan hers once she overheard one of her bridesmaids wanted to get a male stripper, something she was completely against. I plan on helping them plan where to go since it has to be coordinated with friends not in the bridal party. I'm picking a few things everyone can do. Dinner with all of us so the mothers can come, dancing at a local place, things like that.

Jdomanus_9200429

I'm leaving it all up to my MOHs (I have 3 but no BMs).  2 are back in my home town and the 3rd is where I live now.  The 2 back home are in the process of planning a bach party and shower for me and they asked me what I'd prefer and who to invite aside from that I'm leaving it ALL up to them.  I have other fish to fry in the mean time.  I'm paying my way back home and will offer to contribute whatever necessary and maybe I'll provide small thank you gifts for everyone.  That might be a role of theirs but I'd really like to contribute something nice as appreciation for everyone coming together and a little something bigger for the organizers.  I guess what it all comes down to is a give and take relationship .... offer whatever you can but also these friends of yours are contributing a lot for the wedding and everything up to it and the last thing you want is for them to be stressing about the $$.  I think you should offer no matter what whether the gesture is taken or not the offer will be appreciated. 

peyton.ballew

i dont know if i wouldnt want ANY SAY in it. im kinda a control freak.