Help! MOH not helping at all should I demote?

tomandrosa

When I got engaged I asked my best friend to be my maid of honor and he said yes. Than shortly after he has not appered intrested in helping at all. He has not showned up for any wedding planning, wont return my calls/emails/texts. Hes gay so its not like he has a thing for me and I know he is not in school or busy he partys all the time. Should I demote him or not? There is another briadsmaid that is very well deserving of the position. She has helped with everything and is always there for me and my fiance. Please Help me!

ElleB87

The only people required to be included in the planning process are you and your FI.  Your wedding is not the center of anyone else's universe.

tomandrosa

Very true.

amanda_steve12

Well I don't think its completely fair to say that your wedding is the center of anyone else's universe.  If someone agrees to be in your wedding party they should play a role.  They are supposed to be there to help you when you need it.  Together you'll work on things and get things done faster and at the end of the day you'l have less stress. 

I know what you're going through because all of my BMs were like that and I gave them all the boot.  My BMs now are so wonderful and help me with everything when they can.  Yes, everyone is busy and everyone has their own lives, but there is no way you and your fiance can do everything together without help.  I'm much happier with my current bridal party and haven't be stressed since asking them.  It was a great move for us. 

Good luck!

deliciousgroove

I asked my fiance's brothers wife to be my MOH since were going to be sister in law.... she was so snotty and diva.... I gave her the boot. Best decision i ever made.

prissyf1

Yeah, i told my MOH i wanted her help in everything because it relieves a little stress on me, plus she is part of my wedding, not just another body standing in it so I believe your MOH should be there for you no matter what to share the stressful moments and the laughs!