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Converse Shoes
My bridesmaids are wearing converse shoes, but I don't know what color. They are wearing different dresses in various shades of light to medium blue. I would preferrably like them to wear the same color shoe. Suggestions on what would look best. Thanks!
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Re: Converse Shoes
ETA: I glanced at their website and they have a ton of colors. I would say you should choose either your accent color or silver shoes.....but I still stand by saying you have to pay for them. I personally hate converses and would be pissed about spending money on shoes I'll never wear again. FWIW, H is in a wedding where they are having the guys all wear them, but the couple is buying them for the guys.
[QUOTE]My bridesmaids are wearing converse shoes, but I don't know what color. They are wearing different dresses in various shades of light to medium blue. I would preferrably like them to wear the same color shoe. Suggestions on what would look best. Thanks!
Posted by rklimo[/QUOTE]
If you want them to wear the converse, you should be paying for them. The only thing a BM is responsible for is purchasing the dress, not the shoes if you are dictating a specific pair.
[QUOTE]A<strong>re your BMs okay with this? I would never wear sneakers and a dress. </strong>If your BMs are okay with wearing them, then you still have to buy them.
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]
I wore a dress with Chucks at my sister's wedding two years ago, and I felt like a fool. OP, please make sure everyone feels comfortable with this combination.
lcobb517: why were you ready to cry by the end of the other weddings? Was it the first time wearing the shoes? A cheap pair especially for the wedding? I can tell you from experience that cheap shoes are going to kill your feet because of how poorly constructed they are. A good pair has cushioning and will expand with your feet as the day goes on. This is one of the reasons why we always recommend neutrals so that BMs can wear them again and again and the money won't be wasted.
[QUOTE]One reason you should reconsider, besides Converse being completely inappropriate with dressy clothes, is that your wedding will look like a high school prom. This is what teenage girls do at dances in order to be "comfortable". <strong>Also, they are not flattering. I cannot emphasize this enough I'm on mobile so I can't bold.</strong> Converse will cut off their legs at the ankle and make their legs look short and squatty. A nice heel will elongate their legs and make them look slimmer.
Posted by lovesclimbing[/QUOTE]
I can: Converse <strong>are not</strong> flattering. :) My MOH, who is the most pro-chucks and anti-formalwear person I have ever met, had to wear converse in a wedding and <strong>hated</strong> it. She has gorgeous muscular calves, but between the converse and the tea-length dress she looked like she had two tree stumps for legs.
Also, converse are really uncomfortable for some people. There just isn't enough arch support, and some would honestly be more comfortable in heels.
That said, if you want them, you want them. So long as your bridesmaids won't be uncomfortable, you are paying for them, and you really like the look, I don't see a problem with a stylistic choice like that. I would probably go with a grey if you don't have a specific accent color picked out. If you do, I'd go with that. Black would probably be pretty harsh, unless you're using it elsewhere.
I'm wearing blue converse under my wedding dress. My feet won't show unless I lift my dress to show them. If you want to do it, go for it. I do agree that if you are requiring it, you should pay for them, You could do blue, silver, gray or even yellow depending on your accent colors I probably wouldn't do this if their dresses are short or tea-length...just my opinion
[QUOTE]I'd like to know how much Converse paid all of the bridal mags to get this trend started. It had to have been a boatload of money to get the fashion editors to say "ooh. cute!" lcobb517: why were you ready to cry by the end of the other weddings? Was it the first time wearing the shoes? A cheap pair especially for the wedding? I can tell you from experience that cheap shoes are going to kill your feet because of how poorly constructed they are. A good pair has cushioning and will expand with your feet as the day goes on. This is one of the reasons why we always recommend neutrals so that BMs can wear them again and again and the money won't be wasted. eta: When I have those 12 - 16 hour days before trial and cannot get away with jeans and boots because I have to be out of the office, I am always in Nine West shoes. After more than a decade of wearing this brand, I still do not get sore feet no matter how long I am in them.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Cheap shoes - ALSO dictated by the brides. I didn't wear the Converse because I thought they would look great, I wore them because the bride asked me to. And I was much more comfortable all day than I have been in more formal looking shoes.
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[QUOTE]I considered myself pretty chill when it came to bridesmaids. They agreed on dress. I left shoes, hair up to them. But I would have absolutely vetoed Converse - or any athletic shoes - with <strong>a floor length gow</strong>n. I find this kind of thing very immature and generally just a way to say "look at me!"
Posted by scribe95[/QUOTE]
<div>A lot of people had a lot of negative opinions about sneakers and formalwear but this honestly just sort of confused me- wouldn't a floor length gown draw the least amount of attention to the shoe choice?? I mean, I had a floor length gown, no train- can you tell what shoes I'm wearing? No one else could either.</div><div><a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/4/7/247bdbbb-4339-464c-874d-d528ca7b66cf.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/4/7/247bdbbb-4339-464c-874d-d528ca7b66cf.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>
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</div><div>That confusion regarding length aside, I wore sneakers with my wedding gown and all the BMs had pretty much free reign over their dress, jewelry, shoe, hair, etc choices. None chose to wear sneakers and quite a few wore shoes I would never have made it down the aisle in because I can't do heels. It's not a comfort thing even because I've never walked in them. It seems I just<em> can't </em>walk; standing feels too unsteady for me! I also hate flats- ballet or otherwise. I have permanent tanline on my ankles, even in the winter, and all I wear is sneakers. Any shoes without socks (including sandals) look ridiculous and make me feel super self-concious. With that in mind, you should consider your BM feelings and preferences and whether wearing sneakers is actually what they want. If it isn't, I would definitely reconsider it. I also think you are obligated to purchase ANY required shoes.</div>