Dear newbies

emilyinchile

Welcome.

We see the same questions all. the. time. around here. If your first post does not address common issues like BM's budgets for dresses, your expectations of your BMs, micromanaging BMs, you making friend issues about your wedding, etc. then I for one will suggest you look at those things first. If you have in fact thought of all of these things, please explain that so people can answer your specific situation.

This does not mean I automatically think you are an evil bridezilla. Just that other people who have been in what seems to be a similar situation based on your post were on that road. I think a lot of regs would agree, but I won't speak for anyone but myself. If the kind of opinions people give out on a regular basis here hurt your feelings, you may be better suited to a different board.

Kisses,
Me

PS. Tried to post this and TK seems to have eaten it. Banana, if it's duplicated, please delete one - sorry!

emilykathleen511

Dear Newbies,

Just because I say "Don't do this" or "That is RUDE" doesn't mean I think you are a rude person in general, or that I'm being mean to you. I am simply telling it like it is.

Sincerely,

Emily

MyNameIsNot

Co-signed,

Leah

bablingbrooke

All I know is that I can't read minds, I can only respond to what's posted. 

gottahavashorti

And in all likelihood, no one is being mean or trying to hurt your feelings.  Straightforward and honest but not validating =/= mean.  If it was mean, Banana would have deleted it.

Posters don't always stick around, so all the ifs ands or buts may be discussed.  It's nothing against you, but just covering our bases as emilyandchile said.

stina93446

Dear Newbies,

We've all commited wedding faux pas! EVERY one of us! We're trying to help you avoid them.

Sincerely, Stina

CTGirl30

Dear newbies -

We may not always tell you what you wanted to hear, but at the end of the day the intent is to help you so you avoid alienating your friends and committing sins of etiquette. Our intentions are good, despite the fact that we won't necessarily sugarcoat advice. Please don't get defensive - we're not trying to hurt feelings but chances are good that we WILL tell you what your IRL friends might not.

emilyinchile

PS. We don't all know each other in real life. We did not have a secret meeting to decide we'd all just blindly agree with each other. We each express our own opinions, so if you're getting similar advice from a lot of people, while you may disagree with it, you might want to take it into consideration.

mags0607

Newbs:

Also, it may be YOUR wedding day, but when you decide to include other people ( your wedding party) it does also become about THEM. We give you advice to make sure that everyone involved in your wedding is happy to be there and is enjoying it as much as you hoped they would. It may be blunt, but we are trying to help make your day special, not to poop in your cherios just for the hell of it. The advice you get here is valid if not always pleasant.