Man of Honor Survival Kit

ladybbls

Hello!

So, many of you have probably seen the bridesmaid survival kit poems (This Survival Kit was made just to say,I'm thrilled you're beside me on my wedding day! There's chocolate to give you that sugar high,And a packet of tissues in case you should cry.L ip gloss to help you care for your smile,If a nail should break, I've included a file.There is Shout if you should spill on your dress,And mouthwash to keep your breath minty fresh.There's Tylenol and Tums if it's ill that you feel,And Band-aids to help you tackle high heels. I've put everything in this handy pack,So you'll know that this bride has got your back! This kit was created so that you can see,How much you mean to the bride-to-be)

I also have a Man of Honor (my best friend is a guy), so I need a Man of Honor survival kit - eeks! Is anyone out there creative enough to re-vamp this? Or maybe you did the same thing for your or a friend's wedding?

Thank you for your help!! 

GoodLuckBear14

Please don't do this at all.  If you honestly think your girls will need any of this then just have a bag there for anyone to take what they need.

MrsMuq

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry......but I've got to be blunt. That's a lousy gift. Think of how you'd feel if you woke up on Christmas morning and found tissues, band-aids and nail clippers in your stocking. The bad poetry makes people groan, not leap for joy. Please don't do this.  It's one of those horrible ideas the wedding industry pushes.  It also makes bridesmaids and honor attendants freeze up and wonder, "YIPE!!! Who is this person, and what has she done with my friend? What if she turns into one of those horrible women you see on tv? What is she going to demand from me in the months to come?" P.S.  People will bring their own tissues, breath mints and lip gloss with them. Women almost never leave home without that stuff.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

I agree with PPs that this is a bad idea. Just have a heartfelt convo with each maid and tell her you'd be honored if she would stand up with you on your wedding day.

If you think your BMs (or any guests) may forget somethign at home, make up a basket of things like nail files, tissues, hair spray, tylenol, etc., into a basket and put one in each bathroom.

Summer2011Bride

I would skip these kits for both men and women. As PPs have said, if you feel any of this stuff is needed, just bring it yourself. I brought a bag with all this kind of stuff--nail files, band aids, deoderant (individual ones), handheld fans, etc. but just put it on the table and said "dig in." I didn't present it as a gift.

banana468

I don't know a lot of dudes that want a day of survival kit and I don't know a lot of women who want them either.

Instead, if you want to do a survival thing, just put a kit together of things you'll use the day of and put it into one large tote bag that the group can use. 

When it comes to gifts, think of your unique bridal members and their likes and dislikes.  

soontobehanby

yeah, I got a survival guide once.  It came it a thirty-one bag.  I kept the bag and gave all that crap to my sister.  I didn't need it.  The bag was cute though!! I use it all the time!

Jager1219

I'm going against the majority here. I think it's sweet and cute. Completely unnecessary as pp stated as most people already carry everything on them. Also I think it needs to be said that it should not be part of the moh gift but as a something extra. I'd smile if I got one personally and think it was really sweet. I put this in the same category as creative ways to ask someone to be a BM.

Mandaw0515

Why dont you put a basket of those things together for both the women and the men and put it in the bathroom, so if they need they know where its at and u can bypass the corny poem and the seperate bags for each.

s-aries8990

Why don't you just give him a bunch of whiskey nips and call it a day?

ladybbls

Oh, wow, it's apparent to me that I have been very unclear! lol I am not giving this to them as their GIFT, I bought them all lovely gifts This was just an added touch, something fun to do, I received one as a bridesmaid once and we all thought they were so cute! My problem is making one for my Man of Honor, who is just like one of the girls He and his partner are both in our wedding party, but we're not doing these for the groomsmen, just the girls...and gay best friends

Thank you!

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]Oh, wow, it's apparent to me that I have been very unclear! lol I am not giving this to them as their GIFT, I bought them all lovely gifts :) This was just an added touch, something fun to do, I received one as a bridesmaid once and we all thought they were so cute! My problem is making one for my Man of Honor, who is just like one of the girls :) He and his partner are both in our wedding party, but we're not doing these for the groomsmen, just the girls...and gay best friends :) Thank you!
Posted by ladybbls[/QUOTE]

No.  I understood.  I just think it is unecessary and a waste of money.

missfrodo

If you've already bought the stuff, just dump it into bathroom baskets or stick it in a tote where everyone can get to it.  It'll be one less bag they'll have to worry about that day.  If you're dead set on the poem (which, FTR, I hate, too), just slap the poem on the bathroom basket.  Tah-dah!  Also, you shouldn't need to add anything else in there for the guys, just stick some Tylenol and mouthwash in the guys' bathroom.  

QueerFemme

Agreed that all of this stuff goes in the bathroom basket. Skip the bags, skip the poem... which honestly, I don't think is cute at all. It seems kinda juvenile.  

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]Oh, wow, it's apparent to me that I have been very unclear! lol I am not giving this to them as their GIFT, I bought them all lovely gifts :) This was just an added touch, something fun to do, I received one as a bridesmaid once and we all thought they were so cute! My problem is making one for my Man of Honor, who is just like one of the girls :) He and his partner are both in our wedding party, but we're not doing these for the groomsmen, just the girls...and gay best friends :) Thank you!
Posted by ladybbls[/QUOTE]

<div>It's nice to have emergency essentials handy in case anyone needs them, but I agree with PPs that it's unnecessary to make individual 'kits' complete with poem.  I just had a ziplock bag that had bandaids, tums, ibuprofen, safety pins, etc (most of which I already had at home) that I kept in my getting ready room in case anyone needed anything.  I don't think anyone did, so it would have been really overkill to make one for each person.</div>

beardownbchs

Yeah the chances of everyone in your bridal party needing all of these items are very slim. Maybe, MAYBE someone will need a nail file, someone else will need an Advil and someone else will need a bandaid. Giving all of these items to everyone sounds ridiculous and like a waste of money. They're adults, they'll come prepared. I'm prone to headaches so I carry Aleve. Most women with nails carry a file or will survive if one breaks. 

I, too, hate cutesy poems.

bridalmarch

You obviously know your friends better than we do, but FI and I are friends with a rather flamboyantly gay couple who hate always being the only men invited to bridal/baby showers and getting ready parties because they're "just like one of the girls". Being  gay men doesn't automatically mean they want to drool over toasters and kitchen towels at the shower or file their nails with the bridesmaids. Hell, I'm a straight women and I'm bored at most showers and would really have o struggle not to roll my eyes at that poem. 

Here are the things we brought with us to get ready for BFF's wedding:

Small bottle of hairspray for touch ups (this only came in handy when our chiffon dresses came out of their bags really clingy) 

A small sewing kit, a nail file, Listerine strips, and some sort of contraption one of the BM's said was a travel hair curler and straightener all stayed in the bag.  

Again, my friends would giggle at this...and not in a nice way, but if your friends would like it, go ahead and do it and use the same poem for everyone. The guy might have to blow his nose or gargle, too.