I have asked two of my friends to be in my wedding. My maid/matron of honor has been pretty distant lately and has backed out on the girls' nights we've planned, etc. I know she's had a lot of family issues going on and hasn't really felt like socializing much. I've been trying to plan to meet her for lunch, just the two of us, but it has really seemed like she's avoiding me. So, the other day a mutual friend told me my MOH told her she isn't really into the idea of being in the wedding anymore but doesn't know how to tell me. My question is, should I try to open up a discussion about it, or wait and see if she brings it up? I don't want to do anything that will make it worse. Yes my feelings are hurt somewhat but if she really doesn't want to do it.... I still want her standing up there with me but not if she doesn't want to. Help?