Gifts

Jessa617

I am trying to find out if this is enough for my wedding party. I am providing flip flops for the reception and a bracelet for them to wear....yes I understand these are gifts to myself but, I also got them all a reusable pull-string satch/bag or whatever you want to call it in each of their favorite colors, and I am also getting them a small gift card (20-25) to a favorite salon/store. Should I get something else? Or is the gift card and bag sufficient?

Maggie0829

Question.  Are these gifts something that you would get them for their birthday or Christmas?  Also would you typically get your friends the same exact thing for Christmas?  If your answer is no to either of those questions then you are doing it wrong.

And if you know that the flip flops and bracelets aren't actually gifts why even include them in your gift to the BMs?

Jessa617

Yes these are gifts that I would give as Christmas presents. They wouldn't all be getting a gift card to the same place. Two are hair salons they regularly go to, one is a nail salon, one is going to be a favorite restaurant and other a favorite store. I am putting them all together in the same bag just to make it easier. I'm just curious if spending 2025 on each for their actually gift is enough or if I should try and scrape up the funds for something small in addition to the gift certificates.

Kate61487

The only thing on that list that I consider a gift to them is the $20-25 gift card.  is that a typcial gift budget for you?  do you feel like $20 is enough to spend on thanking your girls for supporting you? 

I'm not trying to be mean; for some girls $20 really is the cap of their budget for what they can afford to give and that's fine.  But if you're splurging on useless junk like flip flops, matching bracelets, and a bag I know I'd never use again (I have given MANY of what I believe you're talking about to Goodwill after I received them as freebies) then I assume your budget wasn't totally tapped at $20 and I'd get them something more.

ETA - and if your budget is strapped NOW I'd return the other stuff; since you know it's not really a gift to them.

Jessa617

Well the bracelets are being made by my stepmother and tge flipflops were old navy. I figured since most of the girls would take their heels off anyways I'd get them something that's a little easier on the feet. The bags are cinch bags that I know they would all use between babies and working out. I did not got them personalized so they are plain. The bags were pretty cheap too. I'm willing to try and up my budget if 25 is just not acceptable, hence asking the question in the first place.

Maggie0829

I would scrap the bags and the flip flops.  Give them the bracelets separate from the gift cards.  Include with the gift cards a nice card with a very nice note telling them how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate them not only sharing your wedding day with you but how much you appreciate them being in your life.

As far as price.  That really depends on your budget.  There is no set minimum amount that you have to spend on your BMs.  A heartfelt note costs nothing and is usually more welcomed then any physical gift.

Jessa617

Thank you ladies!