My biological mother and I have had an estranged relationship over the years but we've experienced alot of relationship mending over the last year or so. My fiance and I didn't want to have any ringbearers/flower girls because we find them distracting (seeing how so many of them misbehave, I adore kids but they are not a necessary part of the wedding). My mom called me yesterday and told me she had been shopping for a tux for my little brother (who she decided would be a ringbearer) and a dress for my 2 yr old sister ( who she decided would be my flower girl). I was in such shock that i couldnt respond. Now i love my siblings and my mother but we really dont want the stress of having little kids in our wedding. I'm just not sure how to go back and tell my mother no when she's so emotional and sentimental. What should I do??