Male bridesmaid...Walking down the aisle!

ZacharyErica

So I have a gay friend who is going to be one of my bridesmaids...who should he walk down the aisle with? Ideas?

gottahavashorti

He can walk next to a groomsman and just not link arms.  Or if you have more bridesmaids than groomsmen, he could walk with a bridesmaid.

tidetravel

What does being gay have to do with being in your bridal party?  As if only gay men can stand on the bride's side.  ::eyeroll::

You can have the groom's side stand at the front at the beginning, and then have the bride's side walk alone during the processional.  During the recessional, have the WP weave out and walk alone; GM, BM, GM, BM, etc.

ZacharyErica

No need to be rude.  I rather not have your advice in that case.

Licia&Wayne

OP I don't think tide was being rude. I think she was just pointing out that it's unnecessary to label your friend as gay when asking this question. It would have meant the same thing if you said, "I have a male friend who will be standing on my side. Who should he walk with?"

ZacharyErica

Thanks for the english lesson.  I was just asking for help, not to be critiqued.  Didn't realize people still had such a problem with saying gay.

Licia&Wayne

Wow, please don't get defensive. You got perfectly good advice. No one is trying to put you down.

Albireo

The problem is not with saying 'gay', the problem is with pointing out that he's gay because it's irrelevant in this case.

UNLESS the problem is that he doesn't want to walk with a girl. Honestly, I think you could pair people up in any order -- have him walk with one of the bridesmaids, or with a groomsman. Whatever he and you are comfortable with.

trix1223

Sorry OP, but I also didn't understand how who someone sleeps with affects how they walk down an aisle.  I thought including his sexuality was completely unneccessary.  (It almost seemed like there should be a "not that there's anything wrong with that" after the description of your gay friend.)

FWIW:  Your wedding is over a year away.   And how people get down the aisle is something that can be decided at the rehearsal the night before the wedding.  There really isn't even any good reason to be worrying about this now!

RumsGone

Is he truely gay? Or are you assuming that if he wants to stand on your side that he is gay?

xjizzyx

good lord i feel like i just time traveled 60 years or so, my brother is my man of honor and i really didnt think twice about him walking with the best man, i highly doubt anyone would assume they were a couple (maybe the pregnant wife would be a hint) we have a few friends that happen to be gay  that will be coming to our wedding and after reading this am i expected to put them at a seperate queer table or something? this is truley friggin ridiculous....

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_male-bridesmaidwalking-down-aisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:5487166e-6bae-473d-8f70-85e173034589Post:346ea41c-5ea4-4a5d-8b73-60ea9f78c6d3">Re: Male bridesmaid...Walking down the aisle!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male bridesmaid...Walking down the aisle! : Boys who are in severe denial about wanting the peen in their pooper tend to be the most scared of standing within 20 feet of a gay man.
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

<div>This.  </div><div>
</div><div>Why does everyone put up with homophobic, prejudiced friends?  If one of your FI's GM didn't want to walk with your black friend, would you be here trying to figure out where your black friend should stand?  Of course not.  As long as you put up with this, you are condoning it.  </div>