Wedding Party-- Advice

LJ825

Yeah well dream big have a big freaking cookie for you and your family.  THATS your family, not mine.    And Im not gonna stand by and let my mom set up and decorate for the shower all by yourself.  I come from a very family oriented family and Im not gonna do that.   And Im not feeling sorry for myself, I asked one question and this has been nothing but negativity and just bashing and insults and put downs and nothing positive was gained from this entire message board.  

duckie1905

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[QUOTE]Yeah well dream big have a big freaking cookie for you and your family.  THATS your family, not mine.    And Im not gonna stand by and let my mom set up and decorate for the shower all by yourself.  I come from a very family oriented family and Im not gonna do that.   And Im not feeling sorry for myself, I asked one question and this has been nothing but negativity and just bashing and insults and put downs and nothing positive was gained from this entire message board.  
Posted by LJ825[/QUOTE]

This has nothing to do with my family or you family or how things are done.  If you'd see past your blinding defense for a minute, I was defending your mother's right to throw you a shower.  What I wasn't defending was your decision to help her out "because she's my family."  Whether you like it or not, it is not right to help with the planning or execution of a gift-giving event thrown in your honor.  I'm not sure why you don't understand that.

You just don't get it.  On top of that, you ask a ridiculous question and not only do you not listen to a word we've said, you defend your actions (which, whether you like it or not, are in poor taste).

You've provided us with no information as to why your friends aren't helping you or what may be going on the friendship (because, obviously, things are not puppies and rainbows as you say), so I'm going to call my original thought-that you drove them away with your irritating wedding talk (ie-your post suggesting the OP nag her BMs to get their dresses because that is what you did).  I suspect you think you did nothing wrong but instead, irritated them to the point where they didn't feel like helping anymore.