choosing bridesmaids

Jenna327

I have three very close friends I know will be in my wedding.  I also have three sisters, a sister in law, and my future sister in law...all together that's 8 and a lot of potential family drama if I choose only one or two sisters!  We are only having about 200 guests and I really want it in a small chapel and ideally I would only have 4 bridesmaids.  I really don't want the family drama but my friends are the ones I count on most.  Can I just exclude all of my family? I also would really like to make his sister a bridesmaid, they are really close, but so are me and my sisters.  Any words of wisdom?

Jenna327

I should also add that all of my three sisters are step sisters

jagore08

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[QUOTE]I have three very close friends I know will be in my wedding.  I also have three sisters, a sister in law, and my future sister in law...all together that's 8 and a lot of potential family drama if I choose only one or two sisters!  We are only having about 200 guests and I really want it in a small chapel and ideally I would only have 4 bridesmaids.  I really don't want the family drama but my friends are the ones I count on most.  Can I just exclude all of my family? I also would really like to make his sister a bridesmaid, they are really close, but so are me and my sisters.  Any words of wisdom?
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</div><div>For your FIs sister, he can have her stand up on his side.  There's no rule saying that only guys can stand up for him.</div><div>
</div><div>As for your stepsisters, I think you're right.  If you choose one or two and not all you will hurt feelings.  If you don't choose any of them will they also be hurt?  Maybe you can ask them to do a reading, say a prayer, or if any of them are talented you can ask them to sing.  This way they can still be in the wedding just not a BM.  Or just have them all as your BM along with your three friends.</div>

felicia220

It seems like an all or nothing type situation.  If you put some you will run the risk of hurting the others.  I would say if you want a small WP then don't have the "Sisters" be BM.  I skipped the whole WP thing.  It would have been too much drama for me. And if you really want all of them to be in it. Then do it.  I am just with you on the family drama

lalap69

Either just have your 3 friends or include your sisters and have 6 BMs.  Your FSIL can stand up on your FI's side if he wants her to.