getting REALLY aggravated!

vanessa7889

Ok, this is going to be a big vent, so I apologize in advance.

I posted before about my FI sisters being a bridemaids and now she's not due to boyfriend issues. So I was just going to have my MOH with me. But now! I can't get a hold of the frigging girl! (The whole reason I'm trying to get ahold of her is to get her a dress, wedding is in less then 5 months)

I've been calling her at least twice a week and texting and I'm beginning to feel like a stalker! Anyway, shes not answering me, so I thought ok maybe she got a new phone number. So I called her brother and apparently he got a new number too because the person that answered said I had the wrong number.

She just recently moved and never gave me her new address so its not like I can write her a letter. WTF!  How am I supposed to get a hold of her? Plus its not like she wasn't expecting me to call. We just got my dress last month and we planned to get hers the beginning of this month, so IF she changed her number, don't you think she would've given it to me? Idk, just wanted to see what you ladies thought of the situation.

saxy414

If she just moved, she's probably pretty busy, or she could have lost her phone in the move or something.  Maybe she needs a little wedding break if you've been doing a lot of planning or talking to her about the planning.  If it's been weeks of her not calling you back, I'd take a serious look at your relationship from a non-wedding standpoint.  Otherwise, I'd relax and figure she's really busy with something (although that stinks on the timing). 

FWIW, my best friend takes forever to call me back.  But she has a high stress job, and just moved in to a house, so I understand.  It can be a little aggravating if I really need to get a hold of her, but I know I just need to be patient.  She WILL call me back, it just takes a little bit longer.

jagore08

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[QUOTE]Ok, this is going to be a big vent, so I apologize in advance. I posted before about my FI sisters being a bridemaids and now she's not due to boyfriend issues. So I was just going to have my MOH with me. But now! I can't get a hold of the frigging girl! (The whole reason I'm trying to get ahold of her is to get her a dress, wedding is in less then 5 months) I've been calling her at least twice a week and texting and I'm beginning to feel like a stalker! Anyway, shes not answering me, so I thought ok maybe she got a new phone number. So I called her brother and apparently he got a new number too because the person that answered said I had the wrong number. She just recently moved and never gave me her new address so its not like I can write her a letter. WTF!  How am I supposed to get a hold of her? Plus its not like she wasn't expecting me to call. We just got my dress last month and we planned to get hers the beginning of this month, so IF she changed her number, don't you think she would've given it to me? Idk, just wanted to see what you ladies thought of the situation.
Posted by vanessa7889[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Do you have her email?  When you called did you leave her a voicemail telling her that you just want to get her dress for the wedding?  Stop calling her for about a week.  She's probably just really busy.  If she hasn't called you after one week then try calling her again.  Just don't do it every day.</div>

bablingbrooke

Email her the dress info and then it's up to her to get the dress.  If she does it, she's in.  If she doesn't, she's out.  If she denies you ever sent her the info, you'll have the email to prove it.  

As someone who will have moved cross-country twice in as many years (first time to go to law school, second time to move for work) I will tell you that it takes a few days if not a few weeks to get yourself together after a big move.  In May I'll be moving again, and if a bride was trying to get ahold of me for shopping for a dress I won't even need for 5 months, she's not getting called back anytime soon.  If I were her, I would totally appreciate an email with the info as well as the deadline to get it in time for the wedding.  Then I can get it on my own schedule.

vanessa7889

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[QUOTE]In Response to getting REALLY aggravated! : Do you have her email?  When you called did you leave her a voicemail telling her that you just want to get her dress for the wedding?  Stop calling her for about a week.  She's probably just really busy.  If she hasn't called you after one week then try calling her again.  Just don't do it every day.
Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]

I don't have her email either <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-frown.gif" border="0" alt="Frown" title="Frown" /> shes not the most up to date on technology

bablingbrooke

Then just wait a couple of weeks before you contact her again.  Calling her every 5 minutes, even if she hadn't just moved, is unnecessary and counterproductive.  Don't you hate it when your boss comes by every 10 minutes asking you for a report you know he doesn't need for a long time?  Does that make you work harder, or does it just annoy you?  

You have 5 months until the wedding.  You can afford to wait another couple of weeks.  Let her get settled then try again.

banana468

Give her some time.  Since she's by herself in the BP, she has tons of options for dresses and even a OTR one can be lovely.

Wait a couple weeks and then make contact.