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jlmonpe

My bridesmaid just had to have alterations on her dress, after losing quite a bit of weight since it was bought. She is know expecting me to pay for it. I know money is tight, all around for everyone, but even though it is my wedding, i dont feel its my responsiblity . Especially when she picked out her own dress and it fit her perfectly at the time. Opinions?

Summer2011Bride

You aren't responsible for alterations. It's great that she lost weight, but, assuming it was her trying to lose weight and not losing weight from an illness or something, it was a CHOICE she made knowing her dress probably wouldn't fit. Obviously I think health comes before a dress, but sometimes it is what it is, you know? That's just the way of it.

If she is looking at bridal stores like DB, I would point her in the direction of independent seamstresses who are usually less expensive but also even better than the ones places like DB employs.

Peledreamsofrain

Ok, in reality, you arn't responsibe.

In practice, this is going to cause drama.  It's your decision.  If you have the money, and find it more valuable to just pay for alterations and avoid the fight, then do it.

If the principal is more important to you, and you don't mind the drama, then tell her it's her responsibility.  Be ready for her to pull the 'I can't afford to be in your wedding' card.

missindia87

You are definitely not responsibile.

If she can't afford to be in your wedding and you can't live without her being a part of it contribute what you can.

MyNameIsNot

As long as the cost of the dress and the alterations fit within the budget she gave you before selecting a dress, you're fine.

Is there a reason she thinks it should be your responsibilty?  Is this one of those deals where you had her buy a dress a year ago or something?  

beardo1111

Of course you aren't responsible.  Did you buy the dress? If you did that was above and beyond from the start.  It's tacky that she would even ask you to pay.