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Bridesmaid passes away...do you ask someone else to stand up?

Recently one of my best friends passed away after a 4 year battle with breast cancer. My wedding is 10 months away, so I know that I would have enough time to ask someone else, but do you "replace" that person in your party?

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    Never. In your programs you could refer to her as an "honorary bridesmaid" or something of that nature. Forget about uneven sides, etc. People aren't replaceable.
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    I would not replace her.  That would be the last thing on my mind and it should be the last thing on your mind.  I would also find a way to honor her at the ceremony.
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    Sorry about your friend :(

    Don't replace a bridesmaid (or groomsman) under any circumstances. You don't need even numbers in the bridal party whether or not someone drops out, and if someone wasn't good enough to be a BM the first time around then it's insulting to ask her to step in just because someone's out (for whatever reason).
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    Ditto all the other PP's.  And I'm very sorry for your loss.

    You could list her in the program as an honorary BM. 
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    My dad lost his best man a month before he got married. He did not replace him. I suggest you do the same.

    Very sorry for your loss. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-passes-awaydo-ask-someone-else-stand-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:5bff1c1c-57f0-4a6b-becf-ea672bc4a6a4Post:2ca80277-9db5-49b8-8bbf-2f43aff626e3">Re: Bridesmaid passes away...do you ask someone else to stand up?</a>:
    [QUOTE] (What about putting a pink ribbon in your wedding bouquet?)
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    <div>I love this idea.</div><div>
    </div><div>I am also very sorry for your loss. :(</div>
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    [QUOTE]I'm very sorry for your loss. And everyone else is right. <strong>(What about putting a pink ribbon in your wedding bouquet?)</strong>
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
    Excellent idea.

    I'm so sorry you lost your friend.
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    I agree with all PPs. And I definitely agree with putting the pink ribbon in your bouquet somewhere.
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    thanks so much for the response. I actually was thinking of having one pink rose in my bouqet (figured it would stand out since my colors are far from pink), and if I have an uneven number of bridesmaids/groomsmen, then there would be a table set up half way down the aisle with a vase and a single pink rose in it. Then the one groosman would walk down and take the rose, and hold it throughout the ceremony. No matter what, she'd still be listed as a bridesmaid.....thoughts??
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    I'm so sorry for your loss!

    I agree with the other ladies, I wouldn't replace her, I would find a way to honor her, like maybe have the groomsman carry something in honor of her?  I do like the pink ribbon idea, I am actually having my girls wear domestic abuse awareness bracelets that I purchased for them as this is one cause I feel deeply about.  Maybe you could get the pink breast cancer ones for your wedding party?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-passes-awaydo-ask-someone-else-stand-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:5bff1c1c-57f0-4a6b-becf-ea672bc4a6a4Post:36319fe7-5636-4e46-86b8-75b1624624af">Re: Bridesmaid passes away...do you ask someone else to stand up?</a>:
    [QUOTE]thanks so much for the response. I actually was thinking of having one pink rose in my bouqet (figured it would stand out since my colors are far from pink), and if I have an uneven number of bridesmaids/groomsmen, then there would be a table set up half way down the aisle with a vase and a single pink rose in it. Then the one groosman would walk down and take the rose, and hold it throughout the ceremony. No matter what, she'd still be listed as a bridesmaid.....thoughts??
    Posted by deckel08[/QUOTE]

    I think the pink rose is your bouquet is a great idea. Having the groomsman walk down with the rose, you might want to really think about- it might be hard for some people to watch and you want it to be a happy event.
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    The pink rose idea is touching. I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine...


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    I am so sorry for your loss! And I think I understand what you meant when you asked about "replacing" her. FI's best friend of almost 20 years died in a motorcycle accident in June and he would have been a GM - I have toyed around with the idea of having his GF stand in his place, on FI's side but in a BM dress. I am not very close to her, but I know that FI would be thinking about his friend all day anyway and may like having a reminder of him and where he should have been. I think the pink ribbon or rose idea is perfect. You should do whatever you feel would best represent her and make you feel close to her that day.
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