MOH question

blaxnubian

Hello ladies! I hope all is well. 135 days to go! (Sigh!) I have a question in regards to my MOH. For the bridal shower and bachelorette party, everywhere I've read says that she'll plan if she wants to throw me one. I'm certainly not going to say "you have to do this and that". If she wants to, cool, if not, that's cool too. Now the kicker is she asked me if I wanted one and what did I want to do if I did want one. I told her that it's up to her and I'll be happy with what she does. She said whatever I want to do is fine. I can't really make suggestions or anything, right? Wouldn't that be controlling or even (dare I say) a little Bridezilla-ish? Let me know ladies. Thanks.

Cassandra

banana468

You can certainly make suggestions if she asks for them.  That's her being a good friend to you.  What you can't say is, "The bachelorette better be X!!"

So if she does ask, by all means tell her the things that you'd like.  Understand that they're suggestions and she doesn't have to use them but there's nothing wrong with answering her questions.  She's being a great MOH and you are being a very gracious bride.

Happy Thanksgiving!

caseyandlizzie

Its definitely fine for you to give her ideas of what you would want to do if she asks. I agree, you can't tell her to plan your party and you can't tell her what you want if she doesn't ask. Its clear that she wants to plan a party that you'll enjoy and is being super sweet in doing so, don't feel bad letting her know your idea of a good time.

Simply Fated

If she asks for ideas, go right ahead. I mean, these parties are being thrown for you, of course everyone wants you to enjoy them. Once you start to get demanding, that's when you become Bridezillaish.

lalap69

There's definitely nothing wrong with answering when she asks.  As long as you're not being demanding and telling her how it has be, you're good.

ekilzer1

If she asks there is certainly nothing wrong with it... Just give some guidance- some things you really wouldn't like do are probably helpful if you don't have a very definitive opinion.

sister2groom

It's like Christmas presents, you don't tell people what to get because that's generaly pretty rude...but if they ask, by all means tell them.

blaxnubian

Thanks ladies. I really appreciate it.

Cassandra