I'm having a really hard time selecting my wedding party. I have a good number of friends, I guess, but I'm just not a person who gets close to people, and none of my friends are geographically close either.
I have one sister who I have a somewhat fraught relationship with (but love lots underneath it all). I was a bridesmaid for her, and even though we clash there's very little question that I'm including her in my WP. (Unless we kill each other during the planning process, lol)
I have one pretty-close friend who I adore, but honestly... she is a drama magnet. I know she really wants to be in the wedding, and I want her to be included, but I can't imagine getting through something as stressful as a wedding without some kind of over the top DRAMAZ involving her. I love her greatly dispite her troublesome tendencies, and the drama doesn't (generally) stem from her being a jerk, but it seems to coalesce around her for some reason. Also, I fear to get her too close to my sister, as they are quite possibly incompatible.
I have 3 college friends, equally close, and if any one of them is included the others will question why they got left out. None of them had me in their weddings, although some of them included each other. That's probably not relevant as there are no hard feelings over it.
Two childhood friends, one from kindergarten (seriously) who I've rather grown apart from although we used to be very close, and one from highschool who had me in her wedding but we haven't seen much of each other in a few years as she moved far away. Her husband may or may not be a groomsman.
How can I pick?! I'm not concerned about uneven sides, but I do want at least 1-2 people to stand up with me, as my FI has at least 4 people he would like to ask and I don't want to be all alone on my side.
I know this is utterly trivial to the rest of the world, and I should just figure it out myself, but writing it out helps me to think it out, and you can all enjoy being an audience to my ridiculous dilemma!