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kala+joshua825

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littleluckypenny

Let it go.  If she doesn't fit in the dress, that's her fault, not yours. 

And by the way, don't tell people how to post.  People get really ticked when you try to dictate what they have to say, brutally honest or not.

kala+joshua825

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_what-to-do-when-a-bridemaid-gains-weight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:5f86abe8-30f6-4c64-a6da-3e27697494d7Post:ae1cdf10-ece4-408c-aad5-bc406c3d0f33">Re: What to do when a bridemaid gains weight?</a>:
[QUOTE]Let it go.  If she doesn't fit in the dress, that's her fault, not yours.  And by the way, don't tell people how to post.  People get really ticked when you try to dictate what they have to say, brutally honest or not.
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]

I'm trying to let it go--but then I'm having this image of the day of the wedding, and everyone's getting ready, and she doesn't fit. The last thing I want is for her to be embarrassed to tell me that she doesn't fit in her dress, and then just ignore it and be even more embarrassed when the day actually comes.

And I'm not trying to tell people how to post, but I've seen so many boards where women just are completely rude about the situation--I'm fine with honestly, but when it gets snoody and rude, it's nothing I care to take into consideration.

GoodLuckBear14

OP - I agree with all of the responses in your first thread.  If you think the ladies were rude (which not one of them was) I think it's because you know they are correct.

mbcdefg

This is absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it.

Let her be responsible for her own alterations and her own body. It's not your responsibility to make sure her dress fits. If by chance it doesn't fit her on the wedding day, she can either wear an ill-fitting dress or just bow out of the wedding ... either way, this is not a reflection on you and it is not. your. problem. Feel however you want to feel about the situation, but keep your mouth shut and do not do a single thing about it. It's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

And who the hell is tattling to you that this bridesmaid has gained weight? Whoever's telling you this is incredibly rude. Cut them off mid-sentence and tell them to mind their own damn business and stop gossipping about someone else's weight.

SugarFoote

DD? Wow...
OP, you were quoted so DD was pointless.

aerinpegadrak

Hopefully she DDed because she feels bad about the way she treated her friend and not because her widdle feelings are hurt because people called her out.

jemmini6

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_what-to-do-when-a-bridemaid-gains-weight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:5f86abe8-30f6-4c64-a6da-3e27697494d7Post:67a8278e-6e68-4986-9f60-35ee9defc7ec">Re: What to do when a bridemaid gains weight?</a>:
[QUOTE]OP - I agree with all of the responses in your first thread.  <strong>If you think the ladies were rude (which not one of them was) I think it's because you know they are correct.</strong>
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

Exactly!

lpowers1118

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_what-to-do-when-a-bridemaid-gains-weight?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:5f86abe8-30f6-4c64-a6da-3e27697494d7Post:d9ce212e-c2b5-4002-a695-3ed9906ae7a0">Re: What to do when a bridemaid gains weight?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What to do when a bridemaid gains weight? : I'm trying to let it go--but then I'm having this image of the day of the wedding, and everyone's getting ready, and she doesn't fit. The last thing I want is for her to be embarrassed to tell me that she doesn't fit in her dress, and then just ignore it and be even more embarrassed when the day actually comes. <strong>And I'm not trying to tell people how to post, but I've seen so many boards where women just are completely rude about the situation--I'm fine with honestly, but when it gets snoody and rude, it's nothing I care to take into consideration.
</strong>Posted by kala+joshua825[/QUOTE]

If you read the "Read me first" post you'll see that there is a warning for people being hoenst on here.   If you can't handle it, don't post.   Usually honesty from the posters is the answer you need that no one will tell you to your face. 

RamonaFlowers

[QUOTE]Unless you're the seamstress that's handling the alterations, there is absolutely no reason for the girls to have to try on their dresses in front of you. And even if there was (Again, there really isn't), there certainly is no reason for them to have to try them on in front of each other. That is nobody's idea of fun, I assure you.

Each girl is more than capable of getting herself and her dress to a competent seamstress that she can deal with in a private, non-embarrassing, manner. Dresses can be let out a bit, and if that's not enough, it's possible to put in panels in the back. If a professional seamstress tells this girl there's nothing that can be done with the amount of weight she's gained, then it's on her to scrounge the internet to see if she can find the dress in a size that fits elsewhere. Notice how<span style="font-weight:bold;"> you</span> aren't mentioned at all in that scenario.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

Oh, look, even with your pathetic attempt at damage control, I still have perfectly valid cause to stand by the advice I gave you last time, word for word.

Her weight is none of your damn business. It's on her to ensure that she's wearing a dress that fits the day of the wedding. Stay out of it.