My fiance and I are getting married this June. We have been engaged for two years now, but didn't start the planning process until this past summer so that we could focus on finishing school. That being said, my fiance has had plenty of time to decide on who his best man and groomsmen should be. I have decided to have one maid of honor and one bridesmaid, but rather than have two guys in his wedding party, he wants to have two groomsmen (his best friends from high school) and his best man (a college friend). I don't mind the asymmetry, but my problem is that he hasn't officially decided or told his friends what their duties are.
He doesn't want to choose between his two best friends, and so he has this idea that he should ask his college friend Chris to be his best man. Only problem is that Chris is teaching in South Korea, doesn't know if he can make it back in time for the wedding, and has a history of being unreliable and flaky. I really do like him, but I'm not crazy about having someone in our wedding party that we can't count on to be here in time for tux fittings, the bachelor party, and of course, the ceremony.
My fiance and I have been arguing about this for a while - he takes the typical guy approach and says everything will "turn out fine." I just want him to make up his mind already!
How do we come to an agreement about this?