Help! My fiance has 3 sisters!

eapeaches

My fiance has 3 sisters, and my Mom thinks that I should have all three in our wedding.  We live in a different state, so I don't know his sisters very well.  Of course, I'd love for them to feel included, but isn't 3 too many? 

MyNameIsNot

If you don't really know them, you probably shouldn't ask them to be BMs.  

I'd suggest that your FI ask them to be groomswomen.  

blackfire5th

If you don't want them to be in the WP, you can ask them to do a reading.

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]My fiance has 3 sisters, and my Mom thinks that I should have all three in our wedding.  We live in a different state, so I don't know his sisters very well.  Of course, I'd love for them to feel included, but isn't 3 too many? 
Posted by eapeaches[/QUOTE]

<div>What does your FI think? Does he want to include them? If so, your FI should consider asking his sisters to stand on his side and be groomswomen. They are closer to him anyway and mixed-gender sides are becoming pretty common nowadays. They can wear the same dress as the bridesmaids, a black dress, or whatever would make sense to you. I think this could be the best option. </div><div>
</div><div>If your FI doesn't want to include them on his side, then he should be the one to say to his family that you two decided on the wedding party together. You still could ask them to be on your side if you want to avoid unnecessary family drama with your in-laws (and if it would cause drama, it would probably be best to just ask them).</div>

tidetravel

Ditto PPs.  Although if you decide to ask them to be BMs to avoid family drama, make sure that you keep your expectations minimal (be happy if they get a dress and show up).  Too many people add relatives to the WP hoping that it will foster some sort of bond.  In many cases, it only leads to more drama.

luckynutmeg

I have two sisters-in-law and am close to only one (though her "help" in planning my wedding is more stress than help). I didn't want to ask one and not the other, so neither are BMs. I chose two of my close friends and my future SIL. One of my SILs is doing a reading. The other has two young kids and preferred to watch them instead of participate. By not choosing one over the other, I avoided a bad situation.
If I were you, I would not ask any to be BM, especially if you already have BMs in mind who are closer to you. Maybe your brother could ask one to be a reader?