So, i chose a family member that i was always close with growing up, as my matron of honor. I was maid of honor in her wedding a year or so ago. Unfortunately, when it came time to chose my wedding party, i was torn between her and my best friend since pre-school. I chose my family member for the main reason that i was her maid of honor and i was afraid of what my family would think. Now we hardly ever talk, she never makes the first effort to talk to me or anything, and basically is so wrapped up in herself that i'm afraid my special time won't be about me like it should be. My best friend cares so much more about me and would be a great maid of honor. i'm wondering if it is wrong to politely as my cousin if she would just be a bridesmaid and let me friend be MOH. or if there was some way i could have two MOHs (like can you have co-MOHs in a wedding? or is this unheard of?). any advice would be great!
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You can have 2 MOHs, but only if you are very careful not to give off the impression that the friend is who you really wanted and you didn't want the cousin.
Friendship works both ways. If you were previously close, pick up the phone and call her and figure out what's up.
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"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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If this is how she's always been, remind yourself that your wedding isn't going to change that. You asked her for poor reasons, but that's the choice you made, and that's fine - don't change it now.
In terms of managing your expectations to avoid disappointment, your wedding day is your special time. Any time leading up to the wedding itself is a time when some people will be excited for you - but not everyone. I have semi-good friends who're really into hearing details and best friends who don't care about much beyond where they're supposed to be on March 6. Accepting this and enjoying the people who ARE excited rather than focusing on those who aren't will make this whole time period a lot more enjoyable for you.
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A word of warning from your friends at Cracked.com: Remember that text is going to be how you make your first impression over the internet; if every third word you type is misspelled, people will automatically assume that you're a moron.
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