So one of my really close friends that I have known since middle school expects to be in my wedding but my fiancé and I are still young we are both going to school full time and work part time and don’t have the money to have a huge wedding so i was just going to have my cousins and my 2 best friends in the wedding. How do I tell her that she can’t be in the wedding because we cannot afford it without her giving me a ultimatum. Because when I first told her I was engaged the first thing she said was "I better be in the wedding" and when I said I hadn’t thought about it yet she said if I didn't put her in mine I couldn't be in hers when she did get married. How can I avoid causing any more problems with her and let her down gently that’s she is not in the wedding because we can’t afford it without her hating me? HELP!