My MOH has been talking trash behind my back

krissimatt

I have known my MOH since freshman year in HS (13y/o- we're now 27) and I just recently found out through mutual friends that she has been saying mean and nasty things behind my back. I've tried hanging out with her numerous times since I got engaged and she always says she's busy. When I talk to her about the wedding she always seems enthusiastic, but then she tells our friend that she wishes I'd get over myself. She's taken me to the point that I don't want her to be around me anymore and I won't answer her calls, texts, emails etc. How do I gracefully kick her two-faced trash talking butt out of my wedding???

stina93446

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[QUOTE]I have known my MOH since freshman year in HS (13y/o- we're now 27) and I just recently found out through mutual friends that she has been saying mean and nasty things behind my back. I've tried hanging out with her numerous times since I got engaged and she always says she's busy. When I talk to her about the wedding she always seems enthusiastic, but then she tells our friend that she wishes I'd get over myself. She's taken me to the point that I don't want her to be around me anymore and I won't answer her calls, texts, emails etc. How do I gracefully kick her two-faced trash talking butt out of my wedding???
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

<div>You can not tell me that you've NEVER done this. Everyone does it. Hell, I did this to my bff and I was her MOH. Just ignore it. She's probably just venting. You could confront her if you think it'll get you anywhere, but knowing that situation, the confrontation just might have led me to bad mouth more. This is probably not the first time she's done this about you....just remember that, she's your friend.</div>

krissimatt

let me clarify... she's ALWAYS talked trash behind my back and everyone else she calls a 'friend'. and I did as well in HIGH SCHOOL. We have LONG since been out of hs and I have been an adult and never said a foul word about her. I've actually defended her when other people say mean things about her. She started talking trash BEFORE I got engaged, things like I"m not pretty enough to hang out with her, and she's even tried to convince my fiance to leave me. This is more than jealousy, she's a horrible person and I've always been blind to it because I thought she'd never do the same to me since she talks trash TO me about every one of our friends... I'm really not being unreasonable here.

gottahavashorti

[QUOTE]let me clarify... she's ALWAYS talked trash behind my back and everyone else she calls a 'friend'. and I did as well in HIGH SCHOOL. We have LONG since been out of hs and I have been an adult and never said a foul word about her. I've actually defended her when other people say mean things about her. She started talking trash BEFORE I got engaged, things like I"m not pretty enough to hang out with her, and she's even tried to convince my fiance to leave me. This is more than jealousy, she's a horrible person and I've always been blind to it because I thought she'd never do the same to me since she talks trash TO me about every one of our friends... I'm really not being unreasonable here.
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]
So why are you friends with her, and why does the wedding change things?

If you want to end the friendship, end the friendship.  Don't try to pass it off as a wedding related move.

CA2MT4EveR

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[QUOTE]let me clarify... she's ALWAYS talked trash behind my back and everyone else she calls a 'friend'. and I did as well in HIGH SCHOOL. We have LONG since been out of hs and I have been an adult and never said a foul word about her. I've actually defended her when other people say mean things about her. She started talking trash BEFORE I got engaged, things like I"m not pretty enough to hang out with her, and she's even tried to convince my fiance to leave me. This is more than jealousy, she's a horrible person and I've always been blind to it because I thought she'd never do the same to me since she talks trash TO me about every one of our friends... I'm really not being unreasonable here.
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

If she is such a horrible person, why do you continue to be friends with her AND ask her to be your MOH?  In most cases I would say you cannot kick someone out of your BP without the risk of a loss of a friendship, but in this case it seems like you don't want her to be your friend anymore, so it really doesn't matter. 

Could it be because you talk TOO much about your wedding?  Maybe you don't realize it but all your excitement is not shared by others, and maybe you are talking about details and things she doesn't care about. 

tidetravel

I find it hard to believe that you never thought that she would trash talk you to others, if she trash talks others to you.  There's a saying about a tiger and his stripes...

Regardless, if you're ok with ending the friendship, (and it sounds like you are) then go ahead and kick her out.  There is no "graceful" way to do it, but since you'll be severing ties anyway, I wouldn't worry about sparing her feelings.

stina93446

Ok, I DEFINITELY think it's YOU who needs to change. If she has always acted like this, what makes you think that your wedding will magically change her natural behavior? It won't. Either deal with her "normal" actions or move on and end the friendship.

stina93446

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[QUOTE]How do I gracefully kick her two-faced trash talking butt out of my wedding???
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

<div>And to answer your question, there ISN'T a graceful way to kick someone out. Kicking her out will end the friendship, I can almost guarantee it. It's a huge insult to the person you're kicking out. </div>

mbcdefg

Come on, you REALLY thought you were the only person she didn't talk shiit about, if she regularly talks shiit on everyone else?

I don't get why it's perfectly O.K. for her to talk shiit on your other friends, but as soon as you find out she's doing the same to you then she's suddenly an awful person. Why should other people get dumped on but you shouldn't? What makes YOU more special than them?

My advice: deal with it. You knew what kind of person she was all along, and it would be hypocritical, selfish, self-absorbed and pretentious to kick her out of your wedding because you're realizing that she's treating you the same way as she's treating everyone else. If you were truly upset about her trash talking, you would've dumped her as a friend the moment you heard her talking about your other buddies behind their backs.

And next time you make a friend who enjoys trash talking, either nip it in the bud ASAP or accept the fact that she's probably talking about you behind YOUR back, too. Lesson learned.

aboom44

If you kick her out you end the friendship....if you want both than just do it.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE] And next time you make a friend who enjoys trash talking, either nip it in the bud ASAP or accept the fact that she's probably talking about you behind YOUR back, too. Lesson learned.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

You should probably take a good look at yourself, while you're at it.  What type of person is friends with someone who trash talks their friends in the first place?  Someone who enjoys the gossip, that's who. 

krissimatt

OMW you people are HORRIBLE!!! I can't believe any of you are getting married. this is a SERIOUS issue for me and I needed advice and you are ATTACKING ME!!! screw you. I've responded to some board posts that I thought were absolutely ridiculous and still appealed to the brides thought and feelings about the situation. I thought this would be the forum that I could actually get an answer and not feel like I was being a bitch. how about some compassion or understanding that I'm getting married in four months and now I have to replace my MOH. You people suck at giving advice and I hope you post a question so I can put you on blast like you seem to think you have the freedom of doing to me!

stina93446

Who attacked you?! We gave you the exact advice that you needed. Grow some thick skin, girl.

stina93446

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[QUOTE]OMW you people are HORRIBLE!!! I can't believe any of you are getting married. this is a SERIOUS issue for me and I needed advice and you are ATTACKING ME!!! screw you. I've responded to some board posts that I thought were absolutely ridiculous and still appealed to the brides thought and feelings about the situation. I thought this would be the forum that I could actually get an answer and not feel like I was being a bitch. how about some compassion or understanding that <strong>I'm getting married in four months and now I have to replace my MOH.</strong> You people suck at giving advice and I hope you post a question so I can put you on blast like you seem to think you have the freedom of doing to me!
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, and BTW DO NOT replace your MOH. If you ask her to step down because the friendship is over, leave it as it. Having someone step in to do the honor in the 9th inning stretch is an obvious replacement move. The replacement will feel like a replacement. And your ex MOH will definitely be hurt more by your action to replace her.</div>

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]OMW you people are HORRIBLE!!! I can't believe any of you are getting married. <strong>this is a SERIOUS issue for me and I needed advice and you are ATTACKING ME!!! screw you.</strong> I've responded to some board posts that I thought were absolutely ridiculous and still appealed to the brides thought and feelings about the situation. I thought this would be the forum that I could actually get an answer and <strong>not feel like I was being a bitch</strong>. how about some compassion or understanding that I'm getting married in four months and <strong>now I have to replace my MOH</strong>. You people suck at giving advice and I hope you post a question so I can put you on blast like you seem to think you have the freedom of doing to me!
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

1)  if it walks like a duck...

2)  If you kick her out, DO NOT REPLACE HER!  It's an insult to anyone that you ask to play second fiddle.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]OMW you people are HORRIBLE!!! I can't believe any of you are getting married. this is a SERIOUS issue for me and I needed advice and you are ATTACKING ME!!! screw you. I've responded to some board posts that I thought were absolutely ridiculous and still appealed to the brides thought and feelings about the situation. I thought this would be the forum that I could actually get an answer and not feel like I was being a bitch. how about some compassion or understanding that I'm getting married in four months and now I have to replace my MOH. You people suck at giving advice and I hope you post a question so I can put you on blast like you seem to think you have the freedom of doing to me!
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

You don't have to replace your MOH. You also don't have to kick her out. As PPs have explained - perhaps not in sugar-coated terms, but objectively - you do not have an MOH issue, you have a friend issue. You were blind for not realizing this before, since it sounds like this is just your friend's character. You may now either end the friendship, effectively removing her as your MOH, or decide you still want to be friends with her and keep her as MOH. But if you go about it the other way around and don't call her on this as a friend but just say "sorry, you're talking trash, you're out of the wedding," people will take that as you acting like a bridezilla.

If you decide to end the friendship, you don't need to replace her. No one NEEDS an MOH. You can just have BMs rather than telling one of your BMs that even though she wasn't good enough to be MOH the first time, she'll make a fine back-up.

krissimatt

to answer all other questions,
no I don't bring up my wedding to her ever because I'm very good at making all my own decisions. SHE'S the one that brings it up and acts excited.
I didn't know until recently she was talking trash about me behind my back. and I never allowed her to talk trash about others to me, I didn't welcome it. She just did it and I'd go off to my happy place in my head and let her vent. Most of the time it was because someone wouldn't do something for her so I thought it was just anger.

You can say whatever the hell you want to about me, but all I've ever done is try to be a good friend to ALL of my friends. If that means I allowed myself to be blind to a few that never grew up over the years, then I made a mistake. Lesson learned. She's the ONLY friend I have that talks trash about anyone so don't think I surround myself with people like that. I love how you all decided to come back calling me a bad person when I asked for help to not totally destroy my wedding. thanks a lot for all the wonderful advice on how I can stop being a bitch. you people suck

gottahavashorti

1) You got a lot of good advice.

b) No one attacked you.

tres) You should not replace your MOH, it tells the replacement that she is only second choice to you and has only been promoted to fill a void.

delta) Again, do not kick out your MOH.  If you want to end the friendship for non-wedding related issues now, do that and it will follow that she is not in the wedding.  Otherwise, wait until after the wedding to re-evaluate your relationship with her.

CTGirl30

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[QUOTE]OMW you people are HORRIBLE!!! I can't believe any of you are getting married. this is a SERIOUS issue for me and I needed advice and you are ATTACKING ME!!! screw you. I've responded to some board posts that I thought were absolutely ridiculous and still appealed to the brides thought and feelings about the situation. I thought this would be the forum that I could actually get an answer and not feel like I was being a bitch. how about some compassion or understanding that I'm getting married in four months and now I have to replace my MOH. You people suck at giving advice and I hope you post a question so I can put you on blast like you seem to think you have the freedom of doing to me!
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

Where's Meg with her "Feel sorry for my husband - he married a WPB Reg" siggy?

stina93446

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[QUOTE]to answer all other questions, no I don't bring up my wedding to her ever because I'm very good at making all my own decisions. SHE'S the one that brings it up and acts excited. I didn't know until recently she was talking trash about me behind my back. and I never allowed her to talk trash about others to me, I didn't welcome it. <strong>She just did it and I'd go off to my happy place in my head and let her vent.</strong> Most of the time it was because someone wouldn't do something for her so I thought it was just anger. You can say whatever the hell you want to about me, but all I've ever done is try to be a good friend to ALL of my friends. If that means I allowed myself to be blind to a few that never grew up over the years, then I made a mistake. Lesson learned. She's the ONLY friend I have that talks trash about anyone so don't think I surround myself with people like that. I love how you all decided to come back calling me a bad person when I asked for help to not totally destroy my wedding. thanks a lot for all the wonderful advice on how I can stop being a bitch. you people suck
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

<div>The bold part is key. You KNEW that she did it. Just because you put earplugs in, it doesn't mean that she stops. </div><div>
</div><div>And you suck if you can't see the good advice you're getting here. No one is calling you a biicth. Everyone is telling you to deal with your friend as a friend, not a bm.</div>

gottahavashorti

[QUOTE]to answer all other questions, no I don't bring up my wedding to her ever because I'm very good at making all my own decisions. SHE'S the one that brings it up and acts excited. I didn't know until recently she was talking trash about me behind my back. and I never allowed her to talk trash about others to me, I didn't welcome it. She just did it and I'd go off to my happy place in my head and let her vent. Most of the time it was because someone wouldn't do something for her so I thought it was just anger. You can say whatever the hell you want to about me, but all I've ever done is try to be a good friend to ALL of my friends. If that means I allowed myself to be blind to a few that never grew up over the years, then I made a mistake. Lesson learned. She's the ONLY friend I have that talks trash about anyone so don't think I surround myself with people like that. I love how you all decided to come back calling me a bad person when I asked for help to not totally destroy my wedding. thanks a lot for all the wonderful advice on how I can stop being a bitch. you people suck
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]
So why is it a problem now when it wasn't before?  But more importantly, why are you treating this as a wedding related issue instead of a friendship issue?  Because you've got a friend problem, not a wedding problem.

I don't understand how any of this could destroy your wedding.  If you end the friendship and don't have a MOH, it will be okay.  Some people have no wedding party, some have only BMs.

You need to step back, go out on a date night with your FI or take a long bath and revisit this once you've calmed down.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]to answer all other questions, no I don't bring up my wedding to her ever because I'm very good at making all my own decisions. SHE'S the one that brings it up and acts excited. I didn't know until recently she was talking trash about me behind my back. and I never allowed her to talk trash about others to me, I didn't welcome it. She just did it and I'd go off to my happy place in my head and let her vent. Most of the time it was because someone wouldn't do something for her so I thought it was just anger. You can say whatever the hell you want to about me, but all I've ever done is try to be a good friend to ALL of my friends. If that means I allowed myself to be blind to a few that never grew up over the years, then I made a mistake. Lesson learned. She's the ONLY friend I have that talks trash about anyone so don't think I surround myself with people like that.<strong> I love how you all decided to come back calling me a bad person when I asked for help</strong> to not totally destroy my wedding. thanks a lot for all the wonderful advice on how I can stop being a bitch. you people suck
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

I'm going to go guess that by "you all" you really meant, Tide.  Because that's the only poster I saw that made any statement that could even be construed as an attack.  And, it wasn't, BTW - it was genuine, although sharply worded, advice.

Good on you though, for feeling so personally insulted by one post that you discounted ALL of the other (good) advice that you received - which, I must point out, Tide also gave..  Clearly, we are all bitches that are out to sabotage your princess day.

Licia&Wayne

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My MOH has been talking trash behind my back : I'm going to go guess that by "you all" you really meant, Tide.  Because that's the only poster I saw that made any statement that could even be construed as an attack.  And, it wasn't, BTW - it was genuine, although sharply worded, advice. Good on you though, for feeling so personally insulted by one post that you discounted ALL of the other (good) advice that you received - which, I must point out, Tide also gave.. <strong> Clearly, we are all bitches that are out to sabotage your princess day.
</strong>Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Well...I know that's why I opened my Knot account. It's good to know that we're all in this together.

emilyinchile

Seriously? First of all, the majority of people did not even imply that you are a bad person. We simply said that you were a little naive to think that if she was talking crap about everyone else you know she wouldn't do to the same to you. And second of all, will you PLEASE get it through your head that nothing about this destroys your wedding? You might destroy a friendship, sure, but it seems like you're ok with that (and that is not a comment on you being a heartless person, it sounds like she might deserve it and you should have done it sooner). But being down an MOH is NOT a crisis.

There was an 8.8 earthquake here the week before my wedding. I almost had no BMs because the airport was closed for days. My godmother couldn't come for the same reason. My ILs were in a town that no longer exists because of a tsunami. All of those things? At no point did I say any of them would destroy my wedding. The only one that could have would have been losing my ILs, so after we confirmed they were ok nothing else really seemed like that big a deal. Perspective: find some.

CA2MT4EveR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My MOH has been talking trash behind my back : Well...I know that's why I opened my Knot account. It's good to know that we're all in this together.
Posted by Licia&Wayne[/QUOTE]

Exactly, me too. Cuz we all know I'm not NEY, why else would I be here?!

andy71781

How do I gracefully kick her two-faced trash talking butt out of my wedding???

I vote the above statement to be featured as the quote of the day.

krissimatt

omw... just get over it. I've been driving myself crazy over this forever and it's apparently my problem. She shares just about every friend I have in the city I live in. She goes to all the same places, and I've already stated she's not the nicest person. By asking her to step down I run the risk of all my other BMs dropping out. I admit it won't "ruin my wedding" but the thought of paying all that money to have her turn all my friends against me makes my stomach hurt.
EmilyinChile ~ it wasn't directed at you, I was apparently in the process of typing when you responded and never saw your comment. Yours was the first comment I saw that was actually an answer and not an attack on the kind of person I am. Thank you for the advice and you're right, I shouldn't replace my MOH, when I ask my current to step down I will not appoint another. 

mbcdefg

I've already stated she's not the nicest person.

I don't get why you asked her to be a bridesmaid, then. Or why you even want to stay friends with her. Were you expecting her to change her ways once you made her a bridesmaid?


By asking her to step down I run the risk of all my other BMs dropping out. 

Why?

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]omw... just get over it. I've been driving myself crazy over this forever and it's apparently my problem. She shares just about every friend I have in the city I live in. She goes to all the same places, and I've already stated she's not the nicest person. By asking her to step down I run the risk of all my other BMs dropping out. I admit it won't "ruin my wedding" but the thought of paying all that money to have her turn all my friends against me makes my stomach hurt. EmilyinChile ~ it wasn't directed at you, I was apparently in the process of typing when you responded and never saw your comment. Yours was the first comment I saw that was actually an answer and not an attack on the kind of person I am. Thank you for the advice and you're right, I shouldn't replace my MOH, when I ask my current to step down I will not appoint another. 
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

I win!

No, but seriously...can you not just live with this? If you share friends, then kicking her out is going to look like a total bridezilla move, unless they're all as sick of her as you are. And personally, I'd rather deal with her than create a huge rift in my friend group. You don't have to pretend you're still BFF, just do the bare minimum and work on phasing her out without taking the drastic step of kicking her out.

I'm also interested in what you've spent so much money on. If worst came to worst, and all your BMs dropped out, you'd be in time to cancel their meals and bouquets, right? Have you already bought BM gifts?

krissimatt

a) she's apparently always been "fake" with me. I really considered her my closest friend. besides her being the most reliable and responsible of my BM's I've known her the longest. so she became my MOH. I love how everyone's trying to make it seem like I've always known she was talking trash about me, or that she was always this way. No...no she wasn't...you don't know the situation or me or her. so why don't you just answer the damn question and stop pointing fingers at me being the problem or asking stupid questions.
b) I already stated she's friends with every other friend I have here and she likes to talk trash... can you guess why I'm afraid my other BM's and maybe a guest or two I've ALREADY paid for might decide to not show up??? jeesh figured that would have at least made sense to someone with a brain

stina93446

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_moh-talking-trash-behind-back?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:6a4ca595-c5ad-40aa-86d4-c39ff1e8b81cPost:4838f9de-d825-4992-a75c-17bf753f2138">Re: My MOH has been talking trash behind my back</a>:
[QUOTE]and maybe a guest or two I've ALREADY paid for might decide to not show up??? jeesh figured that would have at least made sense to someone with a brain
Posted by krissimatt[/QUOTE]

<div>Insulting those that you ask advice from is a great way to get honest, nice answers. Just saying.</div>