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Unique ways to ask someone to be a bridesmaid/groomsmen
I know there are cards to do this but I kinda don't like the idea. and even though just asking is the best way to get the answers you need, I wanna be different. Does anyone have any Unique ideas on asking someone to be your bridesmaid and groomsmen.
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I don't care if you don't like the idea and think I should just ask. I'm not asking you what you think I should do. I'm asking for ideas. If you don't have anything to contribut except telling me to just ask, then skip this post and don't comment.
*Edit*
I don't care if you don't like the idea and think I should just ask. I'm not asking you what you think I should do. I'm asking for ideas. If you don't have anything to contribut except telling me to just ask, then skip this post and don't comment.
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Re: Unique ways to ask someone to be a bridesmaid/groomsmen
However, I'd suggest that you leave it up to your FI to ask the groomsmen. Most guys would never let the groom live it down if their bride-to-be asked the groomsmen for them, especially in a cutesy way. If you insist on doing something, fine, but do it for your own attendants only.
[QUOTE]Do something you know they will enjoy - scrapbook, take them to dinner, go bowling, whatever. However, I'd suggest that you leave it up to your FI to ask the groomsmen. Most guys would never let the groom live it down if their bride-to-be asked the groomsmen for them, especially in a cutesy way. If you insist on doing something, fine, but do it for your own attendants only.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
Thanks. I was planning on let FI. He actually likes the idea of doing something special to ask so I'm just getting some ideas and talking to him about them. Trust me, the guys he wants as his groomsmen would tease me first before they get him.
I would make sure that you are within a year, if you ask too early things may change. There are tons of girls who ask like 2 years in advance and later ask how to ask someone to step down. There is no polite way to do that. It will most likely end a friendship. Not saying that will happen to you, just something to think about.
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[QUOTE]I know there are cards to do this but I kinda don't like the idea. and even though just asking is the best way to get the answers you need, I wanna be different. Does anyone have any Unique ideas on asking someone to be your bridesmaid and groomsmen. *Edit* I don't care if you don't like the idea and think I should just ask. I'm not asking you what you think I should do. I'm asking for ideas. If you don't have anything to contribut except telling me to just ask, then skip this post and don't comment.
Posted by azureori[/QUOTE]
Anyone can answer your question anyway they please. If you don't want a variety of answers then don't ask the question on public message board.
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
A word of warning from your friends at Cracked.com: Remember that text is going to be how you make your first impression over the internet; if every third word you type is misspelled, people will automatically assume that you're a moron.
Ex. "On a bright (adjective) morning in October 2011, Fiance and Azurori will be married. They would like to (verb) you to be a bridesmaid in their (adjective) wedding! If you agree you will wear an (adjective) dress and walk (adverb) down the (noun) holding a bouquet of (nouns). You'll look (adjective!)" Kind of dumb but give me a break, its right off the top of my head!
You'd have to be there in person to ask for the adjectives, nouns, etc, otherwise they'd be able to read the rest of the words and know what you're asking. Although maybe it could work via email or phone call. Its not a very grown-up idea but it could be fun.
Good luck!
PS I think if you want to do the asking in an unusual way you absolutely should - you're not hurting anyone and its entirely your call!
[QUOTE]I'm a big fan of homemade Mad Libs! Do you think you could somehow use that idea in asking your party? Ex. "On a bright (adjective) morning in October 2011, Fiance and Azurori will be married. They would like to (verb) you to be a bridesmaid in their (adjective) wedding! If you agree you will wear an (adjective) dress and walk (adverb) down the (noun) holding a bouquet of (nouns). You'll look (adjective!)" Kind of dumb but give me a break, its right off the top of my head! You'd have to be there in person to ask for the adjectives, nouns, etc, otherwise they'd be able to read the rest of the words and know what you're asking. Although maybe it could work via email or phone call. Its not a very grown-up idea but it could be fun. Good luck! PS I think if you want to do the asking in an unusual way you absolutely should - you're not hurting anyone and its entirely your call!
Posted by Robyn5298[/QUOTE]
Thank you Robyn. I think that is the cutest thing I 've heard.
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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I find that to be a completely relevant addition to the post. So, I suppose my idea is "just ask them." Lots of people do cutesy things so the ideas really won't be unqiue they'll just be a re-hash of something some other clever bride already came up with.
I hear that Google is a great source for info and doesn't talk back or give you things you don't want.
Except for porn. So, you'll have to live with that.
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[QUOTE]The thing is you're saying "Oh, if you're not going to give me an idea, then don't comment" ... but why can't "Just ask them and not make a huge production about it" be an idea? Seriously. Lots of people just ask whether it's over the phone or out at dinner or something and it worked out fine for them ... I don't see why, if that's what they did and thought it was a good idea, that they aren't allowed to suggest that to you.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
Becuase I have already said in the original post that it's not what I want to do. I wanted to do something different for them cuz I know they would like it. I guess I just hoped that i would get the same respect that I give others by not commenting if I don't have anything they wanted. It literally annoys me to see people ask something and get attacked becuase everyone doesn't like or agree with it. So then when that person sit's there and says this is not what I looking for it's not the op thats being senitive it's everyone else saying "well you shouldn't of asked then" getting an additude.
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
A word of warning from your friends at Cracked.com: Remember that text is going to be how you make your first impression over the internet; if every third word you type is misspelled, people will automatically assume that you're a moron.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unique ways to ask someone to be a bridesmaid/groomsmen : Becuase I have already said in the original post that it's not what I want to do. I wanted to do something different for them cuz I know they would like it. I guess I just hoped that i would get the same respect that I give others by not commenting if I don't have anything they wanted. It literally annoys me to see people ask something and get attacked becuase everyone doesn't like or agree with it. So then when that person sit's there and says this is not what I looking for it's not the op thats being senitive it's everyone else saying "well you shouldn't of asked then" getting an additude.
Posted by azureori[/QUOTE]
I'm just saying, you're allowed to feel annoyed by not getting the suggestions you want-nothing wrong with feeling things, but if you really think people should just "ignore" your post if they can't contribute on the level you feel they should, then what is stopping you from "just ignoring" the people that you feel aren't contributing "properly"? And how were people supposed to know what you felt "proper contribution" would be anyway? Tons of girls have asked this exact same question before, and when told "Oh, I just called my friends up and asked", actually said "Oh, now see I thought I <span style="font-weight:bold;">had</span> to do some big crazy gesture. Thanks for clearing that up!". So, honestly, it's a little silly that you would kind of expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to magically know what you would deem a proper answer to your question.
I'm not trying to be a jerk here, I'm really not. But this <strong>is</strong> a public internet forum. People are allowed to respond to your posts however they want (Including giving different opinions and tell you that they think don't think your idea is as great as you do), and you do <strong>not </strong>have the right to tell them otherwise. The Knot has a set of rules, and those are the only ones that posters (Any posters) are required to adhere to. That means that if all somebody did was come into this thread and say "Mail them a box of monkey vomit. That's totally unique", they've done absolutely nothing wrong. It may not have been what you wanted to hear or what you felt was "contributing", but they are well within their "Knot Rights" to do so.
If you fire a WP member, you're against America.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unique ways to ask someone to be a bridesmaid/groomsmen : <strong> "Mail them a box of monkey vomit. That's totally unique", </strong>they've done absolutely nothing wrong. It may not have been what you wanted to hear or what you felt was "contributing", but they are well within their "Knot Rights" to do so.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
No, it is not. I mailed my BMs monkey vomit.
:)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unique ways to ask someone to be a bridesmaid/groomsmen : Tons of girls have asked this exact same question before, and when told "Oh, I just called my friends up and asked", actually said "Oh, now see I thought I had to do some big crazy gesture. Thanks for clearing that up!".
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
I would say a good 75% of people who ask the question respond that way.
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
A word of warning from your friends at Cracked.com: Remember that text is going to be how you make your first impression over the internet; if every third word you type is misspelled, people will automatically assume that you're a moron.
Really guys, we know you read the original post. Its pretty obvious you started a fight just to do it. Its incredibly unnecessary and childish. Go back to 4chan or yahoochat with the other 13 year olds who are at your same level and start pointless juvenile banter with them.
Anyway,
My boss and I were discussing our weddings the other day, and she showed me what she did for her bridesmaids. She pulled a Charley and the Chocolate Factory and bought each of them their favorite candy bar and wrapped them all in gold paper, basically giving them each a "golden ticket" to her wedding. She decorated them to look similar to the ones from the film with her own twist to go with her wedding colors, etc., which was cute, until a bunch of glitter came out of her purse with her phone and wallet onto the floor at work.
[QUOTE]Geez, sensitive much there OP? My opinion of the whole thing is "it is a waste of time and money." I find that to be a completely relevant addition to the post. So, I suppose my idea is "just ask them." Lots of people do cutesy things so the ideas really won't be unqiue they'll just be a re-hash of something some other clever bride already came up with. I hear that Google is a great source for info and doesn't talk back or give you things you don't want. Except for porn. So, you'll have to live with that.
Posted by duckie1905[/QUOTE]
You are a giant beeyotch!