Help! Ring Bearer AND flower girl? Neither? Or just ring bearer??

Mbenwitz

I am having 10 bridesmaids and 1 junior. The wedding will be about 200-220 people.

I am trying to decide if I should have my nephew (he'll be almost 2) as the ring bearer. I see him about 1ce a week.

I could also ask my fiance's cousins daughter to be the flower girl, but I am not very close with her and only see her 2-3 times a year.

I don't want to be rude by asking my nephew and not a flower girl, but am also thinking b/c my bridal party is so huge it'll just be easier without. I don't want it to turn into a circus, it already kind of will be! 

Is it okay to just have my nephew? Or maybe just not do any kids in wedding party? Any advice would be so helpful.

THANKS MUCH!!!!!!!!!!

mlg78

Yes, your wedding party is huge.

I also think your nephew is too young to be a ring bearer.  Let it be up to your fiance if his cousin's daughter is in the wedding.  How often you see her is irrelevant. 

Mbenwitz

Yeah I think he might be too young too....

My fiance doesn't care whether I ask the flower girl or my nephew. He wants to leave everything pretty much up to me.

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You definitely can have one and not the other. Right now, we are only planning on having a flower girl, because none of our friends or family attending have any boys of the appropriate age to fill that role (we did, however, debate having a girl ring bearer with the flower girl, but due to some family dysfunction decided against giving the 2nd girl's parents a false sense of entitlement.. YAY DRAMA). 

The most important thing is to have people you cherish as party of your party; regardless or gender or their 'role'

AddieCake

I wouldn't ask someone to be a FG just to fill a spot. You're not that close to her, so don't ask her. And I think the boy is too young to be the RB.

kipnus

Save yourself a headache and skip both roles.

MrsToBe814

You can certainly do one and not the other or neither at all. Like you said, your bridal party is huge to begin with so you really don't need the extra headache of REALLY young children who may be shy, uncomfortable, unable to follow directions, or generally cranky on that day like kids can be. 

kristingregwedding

We are having 2 ring bearers and no flower girls.  I have a 2 (will be 3) yr old nephew and Fiance has a 3( will be 4) year old nephew.  They will walk down the aisle together... hopefully hahah!

slgirl21

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[QUOTE]I am having 10 bridesmaids and 1 junior. The wedding will be about 200-220 people. I am trying to decide if I should have my nephew (he'll be almost 2) as the ring bearer. I see him about 1ce a week. I could also ask my fiance's cousins daughter to be the flower girl, but I am not very close with her and only see her 2-3 times a year. I don't want to be rude by asking my nephew and not a flower girl, but am also thinking b/c my bridal party is so huge it'll just be easier without. I don't want it to turn into a circus, it already kind of will be!  Is it okay to just have my nephew? Or maybe just not do any kids in wedding party? Any advice would be so helpful. THANKS MUCH!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by Mbenwitz[/QUOTE]

 I'm planning on having my niece as my flower girl and no ring bearer, I think it will just be fine to have just a ring bearer. you got alot of BM's...