pregnant bridesmaid

LuvCG

My best friend pulled out of my wedding party because she found out she is pregnant.  She already bought her bm dress and by the time the wedding comes around she'll be 6 months pregnant and has no idea how big she'll be.  It's also a big expense to buy another dress and I can't really contribute because money is tight here.  Does anyone have any idea as to how I can include her in the wedding since she's no longer going to be a bridesmaid? 

gottahavashorti

She can still attend your shower if you have one, get ready with you, etc. if she wants to.  But would it be possible to get an off the rack maternity dress in a color similar to your BM dresses?  It would be less expensive and she could find one closer to the wedding when she has an idea of size.  Ultimately it's up to her.

mbcdefg

There's no way to convince her to stay in the wedding party? She could bring the dress to a seamstress to see if it could be let out .. she could find a matching shawl somewhere or a spare cheap matching dress to cut up for scrap fabric (maybe eBay?) and a belly panel could be put in.

Or you could tell her that you really want her standing (well, maybe sitting :P) up there with you, and you will help her find a dress off the rack that closely matches the color of the BM dresses. Or let her wear a black dress, or a dress in your second wedding color. People will know that a pregnant bridesmaid needs special accommodations and will not think that her being in an alternate dress is weird.

If there's really no convincing her to remain a bridesmaid, maybe she would like to do a reading. Or just get her a corsage, list her in the program as an honorary bridesmaid and include her in the formal photos, but let her sit and enjoy things as a guest.

As long as you take the time to be a friend to her and include her in any wedding plans that she would like to be a part of, hopefully she will not feel left out. You're a good friend to want to keep her included.

cjjohnson08

I think she still can be in the wedding. The last wedding I was in there was a pregnant bridesmaid. Most places have a prego version of the dress and might let you exchange the dress for no or little cost.

LuvCG

She's still going to sit with me at the dais at my bridal shower and if there's a reading for her to do at the ceremony, I will include her that way.  I like the idea of calling  her an honorary bridesmaid.  Some of my bridesmaids, including her, got a dress off of an online store, which would have been great in theory but when you come up with a situation like this, it can't be returned.  I think that when we get closer to the wedding I will re-ask her to be sure this is what she wants. If she is willing to still be in the wedding we'll go and find a maternity dress for her to wear.  Thanks for the help, ladies.

hildeedee

also have her list the dress for sale on trash to treasure or craigslist or wedding bee classifieds so she can use the money toward a maternity dress if she changes her mind!

lyndausvi

I had my BM just buy any dress she wanted that was brown (like the other BM).  Her thought was she would buy a dress anyway because of being pregnant and not fitting in her regular clothes.   Can that be an option?

I also like selling the dress

LuvCG

She's going to try to sell it on ebay or craigslist or whatever website she chooses.  We're going to revisit the topic closer to the wedding and hopefully we can find a nice maternity dress that matches the BM dress colors and she'll still be in it.