Ringbearer? Figured out

wicked_faery

I'm deffinitely having a flowergirl at my wedding. I'm looking to ask my best friend' (who i'm hoping will be my MOH) daughter to be my flowergirl. But as for a ring bearer , we don't really know any little boys that age...the only 1 i know of is his cousin's son...but we're not going to be able to afford inviting them to the wedding anyways...

so question is, is it wrong to have the FG & not the RB?

mbcdefg

Why would it be "wrong"?

wicked_faery

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[QUOTE]Why would it be "wrong"?
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
honestly i don't know. just figured i'd get some opinions. Cause the best man holds the real rings anyways...also it'd save me from having to make a pillow...

emilykathleen511

No. The only reason to have any kids is to honor the kids close to you in your life. If that means 1 little girl, then you have 1 child attendant. The real point of them anyway is to look cute...they don't really have "job" other than that. So it sounds like you are set!

wicked_faery

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[QUOTE]No. The only reason to have any kids is to honor the kids close to you in your life. If that means 1 little girl, then you have 1 child attendant. The real point of them anyway is to look cute...they don't really have "job" other than that. So it sounds like you are set!
Posted by emilykathleen511[/QUOTE]
that's a good point. thanks ^_^

blackfire5th

I want to know why someone answered "HECK no!"

We only had flower girls.  We aren't close to any young boys and I really don't see the point of a ring bearer.  Most of the time they carry fake rings.  To me it was one more bout to buy, one more gift to buy, and one more prop (pillow) to buy.

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]I want to know why someone answered "HECK no!"
Posted by blackfire5th[/QUOTE]

<div>Probably because the last line of her post has one question, then the poll has a different question and the same answer would mean the opposite for the other question.</div>

blackfire5th

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ringbearer? Figured out : Probably because the last line of her post has one question, then the poll has a different question and the same answer would mean the opposite for the other question.
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stina93446

It was me, actually. I was answering her last question about if it was wrong to have a fg and not a rb.....my answer was heck no to that.

trix1223

The sole purpose of kids in a wedding is to look cute.  You'll be just as married without kids in the wedding as you will with kids in the wedding.

And the symmetry issue (not necessary at all) applies to kids in a WP, just as it applies to adults in a WP.

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE]I want to know why someone answered "HECK no!"
Posted by blackfire5th[/QUOTE]

Sorry, sorry... I read the question wrong.  I thought it said "if we have a flower girl, do we have to have a ring bearer?" 

To which I say: HECK no!

EDIT:  yeah... Joy, read all the responses before you post.  This has been covered :)

mbcdefg

For what it's worth, we are not having any kids in our bridal party, and every single person we've told about this (family, friends, photographer, priest) has said, "GOOD!"

So don't throw a random kid in there just for a cute 20-second photo op. It's not worth it. Only honor people you are very close to, whether they're kids or adults.

banana468

The only person you HAVE to have in the wedding party aside from yourself is the groom.

aerinpegadrak

We're not having any kids in the wedding.  We'll have a couple of infant daughters of the wedding party present, but they're not "in" the wedding.  (Though their mothers are planning to make them coordinate with the wedding party, which I find amusing.)

megk8oz

You seem to have gotten this under control, but just the same: one more vote for "You don't need both!"

We only had 1 RB (DH's nephew) ... and honestly, I thought that was 1 kid too many.

amandalynn81887

we're having 2 girls in the wedding party and one of them will be a flower girl, the other will be a ring bearer.  I know this seems strange, but we are close to both girls and i like the idea of both roles being filled.  Rather than having 2 flower girls, I'd rather have one of each.  Plus our chuch doesn't allow us to sprinkles pettles anyway.  I don't think there are any real rules on this, and if there are I dont care hahaha.   So do what you want with it.

brianabrad

I am in the same situation . . only little girls in the family. I will likely have either two flowers girls or make one of them a ring bearer and have them walk down together anyway. I see no reasons why you have to have both.

billchris1220

We aren't having a ring bearer, we are having a ring bearess!  My step daughter will dress as a traditional flower girl, and carry flowers like a bouquet, with the rings tied to it, though, most likely not the real rings!  I wanted to give her a prominent role in the wedding and thought this would be the perfect way to do it!

Good luck!

svauthier

No you don't need both. As it was said before, it is just to honor the kids that you are close with. We aren't have either, because we don't know really anyone with children that are young enough to fit the role that we are close with. I am sad about that, because in my head I picture them in my wedding. But oh well. Plus my sister got married this past summer and had a ring bearer, flower girl, and a little bit older one that took them down. Only the oldest one made it all the way down. The ring bearer dropped the pillow and her ex boyfriend picked it up and put the rings back on it. It was really cute. But then at the reception, the flower girl was scream and making a big fuss. So I am glad I don't have to worry about that.

By the way, stina93446 I love the pic of those shoes. I am looking for shoes that same color that are open toe. What brand are they?

lbeard84

I answered "HECK NO" because I meant that heck no, it's not wrong!  It's your wedding, do whatever makes sense to you!

piphiusm

I'm having a ring bearer and no flower girl. I have a nephew, but no nieces and no little girls to which I'm very closely connected. Sure, I could find some cute kid at church and put her in a dress. But I'd rather have people in my wedding with which I have an emotional connection. I even have a male Bridal Attendant!

jess.swope

I'm in the same boat where we don't know any young boys. What we've decided to do is have two flowergirls who carry the rings on pillows in their baskets. I'm really looking forward to making the pillows as well, but it's just one solution we came up with

bradfo55

I am actually in the oposite situation from most of you, I have a ring bearer, but no flower girl. BUT - I don't want him to bear fake rings, very un-practical and adds no value to the ceremony in my opionion. I want him to carry a bell and yell "the bride is coming!" What should he be called though????

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]I am actually in the oposite situation from most of you, I have a ring bearer, but no flower girl. BUT - I don't want him to bear fake rings, very un-practical and adds no value to the ceremony in my opionion. I want him to carry a bell and yell "the bride is coming!" What should he be called though????
Posted by bradfo55@gmail.com[/QUOTE]

<div>Screaming kid?  </div><div>
</div><div>People know you are coming.  You don't need a herald, and it's obnoxious.  </div><div>
</div><div>None of the adults in the WP serve any purpose.  They walk up the aisle looking nice.  Let the kid do the same thing.  </div>

APROCTOR86

We are having 2 ring bearers ( his nephews) and unless my brother who is in the Navy can make it out we wont have  a flower girl.  I honestly didnt want to have a FG or RB but we wanted the younger boys to be involved even if one of them isnt too keen on the idea of walking in front of everyone.

Its your guys day do what you want!

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pixiepresser

We do not have a flower girl or ring bearer for our wedding.  Our rings will be in a moss lined bird nest on the altar table, tied into it with a purple ribbon.

mizri

I just feel like adding my $.02...  We're having 3 flower girls and one ring bearer.  Two of the FGs are our daughters (we each have a 3-year-old girl) and the third, who is going to be escorted by the RB is my MOH's 5-year-old daughter, the RB is my 5-year-old son.  I refuse to find two 3-year-old boys to escort the girls, that's just too many kids!  (says the bride with too many kids already! lol)