It's Tuesday Night WP Night!!

banana468

Ladies, start your WP engines!

I'll be here all night! (well, til my bedtime!)

And if you fee like it, ask me any questions you want!!

bablingbrooke

Banana (and others): What's your biggest pet peeve on this board?

I have three: 1) posters not using correct, basic spelling that you should have learned by 3rd grade, 2) posts starting with "Ok so" to convey a sense of urgency, and 3) "You don't know me or my situation!"

What do you like the best about this board?

I have three more: 1) people genuinely want to help and give (blunt, honest) advice, rather than torture new posters, 2) not cliquish (from my POV anyway--feel free to disagree), 3) WPBP of the day!

stina93446

Biggest pet peeve- people thinking that their problems are oh so different from everyone else that posts on this board. Also, those who get a million answers that are "you are in the wrong, bms don't have duties" followed by one newb who's never posted before that says "kick her out, that's what I would do" and then the OP only responds to the newb. 

Like the most- The regulars. I really feel at home here. I like that most of us are actually near NYC so if I really wanted to meet one of you, it is possible. Also, I like the fairness on this board, how blunt it is, and how we are welcoming to new girls, no matter what some people may think.

megk8oz

Brooke, I'll play (Cracks knuckles, gets ready to rant):

Dislike:
1) "You don't know me! I'm really a nice person. My friends/sisters/FI told me that you guys are wrong ... I'm the least Bridezilla person EVER!". I have lost count of how many "Least Bridezilla person EVER!" we've had. Plus, if you're friends say you're right, we say you're wrong, and you prefer your friends' opinions, no need to come back and tell us somebody validated you and expect us all to say "Oh, well, since your friend said you're not being rude, I guess it is ok to boot one of your BMs for not coming to one of your bi-monthly planning sessions".

2) And this isn't just WP, this is all boards on TK: I'm sick and tired of the girls that make that "revolutionary post" saying "If you're married, why are you still here? Go away, we don't need you!" (Usually posted within 48 hours of the OP not being validated for whatever insanely rude idea she came up with). Really? These posts annoyed the crap out of me before I got married. Do you honestly think you're the very first person to ever tell the married girls to move on to the Nest and leave the advising to engaged girls only? Not only that, but whether or not you think you're the first, do you really think that any of the married Knotties are going to read you're post (After most likely seeing or responding to the post that got your panties in a twist in the first place by calling you rude) and just say "Oh well, since she said it, I guess we all better move on" and clear out? I'm really curious how many girls write one of those posts and really expect that they're the Chosen One that will restore The Knot, casting out the marrieds, and turning the forums into nothing but Validation Central?

3) Anybody that says "I know it says to read first, and I did, and I don't see anybody in my exact same situation ..." and then the situation is "See, I want to kick out my one BM that's been a real flake my entire life, and my girls are wearing green, so it's completely different from the other 4 posts ask because their girls are wearing blue".

stina93446

BTW, what ever happened to Larissa?

MyNameIsNot

I forgot all about Tuesday nights.  Not that I was going to do anything else tonight.  I'm seriously feeling too tired to cook.

Pet peeve: Other than what's already come up, when people delete their OP b/c they didn't like the answers.  You know, most WP problems are pretty common, and have similar solutions.  Some people refuse to read, but some actually do.  Deleting the OP ruins it for someone that may have a similar problem.  

Second, people with an immunity to logic.  

Favorites: That this board is pretty fun, and everyone is really friendly.  And the WPBP. 

megk8oz

Ok, now that I've released the anger, I'll move on to the puppies and rainbows:

I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I like the regs here. I know some beebees like to say all the boards are "cliquey", but I really don't see that here. I mean, there are some of us that come play here everyday, but we're always very open to "new" people that are giving good advice. It's not like P&E where you have to like "earn" your way into the "Cool Kids Club" for any of the regs there to back you on something.

Also, I like that we "keep it [relatively] real". Yes, we have sarcasm, but for the most part, we tend to at least give the advice at the same time ... it's not like somebody posts and then we have like 7 sarcastic comments that offer absolutely no help to whatever the OPs problem is. As annoying as the same questions day in and out can get, we all take the time to explain to each little snowflake what we do in every other little snowflake's posts.

And I love the WPBP. It's a nice way to get the "fun facts" on anybody who plays.

megk8oz

And, Stina, I was actually wondering the same thing the other day. I haven't seen her  around since like right before/after my wedding.

stina93446

BTW, while she wasn't a crazy, the girl last week who was trying to get her bms to buy their dresses earlier because her mom was ill was getting on my nerves. I hope the best for her mom, but she should have realized that dresses are not important in that situation.

bablingbrooke

I will never understand why style trumps substance for so many people when weddings are involved...your mom is dying and you're worried about the dresses?  Really?  

Having said that, my mom was terminally ill for awhile and I can understand fixating on something else as a way of dealing.  So I don't hold it against her.  It didn't take much to set me off when my mom was sick so I could see her getting upset about something like that.

emilykathleen511

It was times 40,000 for the record. She was awesome. She actually recanted, so she is cool by me. Anyone who can admit they were wrong is fine in my book.

stina93446

I just suck. I don't like people. Whah!

banana468

Babling, I think you hit the nail on the head.

Sometimes, the grieving process doesn't always follow logic.

stina93446

I am sure that when I first showed up on the knot, I was a stupid newb too. I can remember VERY well what people flamed me for and though I don't wish to elaborate or share, I will say that I am a better poster for it.

bablingbrooke

The world is crashing down on you and you just want to be able to control SOMETHING.  Anything.  If I had been getting married and knew my mom may not live to see it and I moved it up for her, frankly I'd expect my friends to get on the ball and do this for me.  I can also appreciate wanting to have a "real" wedding with mom there, not just a JOP ceremony that underscores how quickly she's deteriorating.  

I'm very lucky that my mother pulled through and it's been 10 years and you'd never guess she was sick.  But I will never forget how terrifying it was to know there was a real possibility of losing my mom.  

trix1223

I'm coming in late because I was at my book club meeting-discussing Half Broke Horses by Jeannette Walls.  Anyway, brooke:

What's your biggest pet peeve on this board?
like brooke:  poor grammar and spelling.  My teeth hurt especially when someone types in text speak.  I find it particularly amusing when they use u three times and then type out you.

My second is the people who end a post with "What do you think of my idea?" when what they really want is validation, not our actual opinions.

My third, and it's not really completely their fault, but when brides buy into the tv shows and magazine hype and think that unless their wedding looks like Whose Wedding? or Platinum weddings it will be a failure.  I find that sad.

What do you like the best about this board?

I have three more:
The regs.  Even though I'm probably among the "most experienced" (nicer than old, don't you think?) I feel comfortable here.  Thanks for that, everyone.

Stina's polls.  Even though I don't always participate, I enjoy reading about the rest of you.

The very honest, and down to earth advice that people give, trying to help brides avoid falling into wedding foolishness.

stina93446

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_its-tuesday-night-wp-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:71044a04-252b-4d94-b078-484f373cccfbPost:3737b8d0-c191-452b-91d5-1b6c6179485a">Re: It's Tuesday Night WP Night!!</a>:
[QUOTE]My third, and it's not really completely their fault, but when brides buy into the tv shows and magazine hype and think that unless their wedding looks like Whose Wedding? or Platinum weddings it will be a failure.  I find that sad. Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

I hate David Tutera. Why must he put crystals EVERYWHERE?!

bbyckes

Hi Stina, Banana and MNN.  Just lurking over on WP.  No pet peeves - other than peeps deleting their OP.  Silly.

emilykathleen511

Grammar people:

While at work I always REALLY want to correct grammar/spelling mistakes in the notes that other agents place on people's accounts, but I can't because then my op id will show up on the note instead of theirs. It's like torture seeing it and wanting to FIX it and not being able to. Grrr.

Also, I agree about not always participating in the WPB POTD, but I always enjoy reading them.

banana468

Ditto on the polls!  I don't always participate but I think they're awesome!

MyNameIsNot

Re: Brim.  Did anyone see her on E last night?

There was a poll about Hooters.  She popped in and said that anyone who thinks that the uniforms are degrading is unattractive or insecure. 

Then she said she had no insecurities because her FI never, ever looks at other women.  Ever. 

I'm back to thinking she's a troll.  An elaborate, ladybug style troll.

mags0607

I'm here! I haven't read the other posts yet. I just got back from Mardi Gras and my parent's house, but I am here!

Now I am going back to catch up. Hi!

SarahPLiz

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_its-tuesday-night-wp-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:71044a04-252b-4d94-b078-484f373cccfbPost:dcee908c-9d10-4a0e-8fd4-180c794814a1">Re: It's Tuesday Night WP Night!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Re: Brim.  Did anyone see her on E last night? There was a poll about Hooters.  She popped in and said that anyone who thinks that the uniforms are degrading is unattractive or insecure.  Then she said she had no insecurities because her FI never, ever looks at other women.  Ever.  I'm back to thinking she's a troll.  An elaborate, ladybug style troll.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
OOH, I forgot that was her last night. Dangit, she must be a troll.

banana468

I think she may be VERY young so she's believing those things.

The only guy I know who doesn't look at other women is MY husband of course.

::eyeroll::

stina93446

Um, I KNOW my DH looks at other women. Not in the "OMG how many ladies can I stick it in!" but moreso like "Wow, she's attractive."

It would be useless to get upset for a guy looking at other women. As long as you don't touch, I see nothing wrong with it.

bablingbrooke

Unless you use your ring to gouge out your FI/DH's eyes, he's going to look at other women.  

DH and I have an accord: Look if you want but you're leaving with me

banana468

I've heard a guy say, "It doesn't matter if I look at the menu as long as I go home to eat!"

bablingbrooke

I do confess: I probably "look at the menu" a little more than DH.  That or he's just really good at doing it covertly

stina93446

haha, banana. I've never heard that one. My DH has an asian fetish, so the only time I really think "he's looking at that chick" is when a hot asian walks by.....and I know I'm still the hottest asian to him anyway!

megk8oz

Ok, I'm back-had to eat dinners.

You may be right, it may not have been FDR ... I just thought that I read that somewhere.

Anyway, yeah, I still ignore Brim, because she just spews idiocy wherever she goes.

Also, I didn't want to point this out in the thread on WP, but LoveBug? The chick that's all worried because her FI's brother's wife is planning on having a baby right before her wedding that's 18 months out? She has this totally bizarre post on SB a week (Link in a moment) or so ago that makes me think she shouldn't even be getting married let alone worrying about the family planning of her FILs.

megk8oz

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_big-fight-fh-am-over-reacting