Bridesmaid thinks shes the maid of honor...

kellbell222

I have a major problem... one of my bridesmaids has assumed that she is the maid of honor.  She is a college friend and we always joked about it in college.  Its four years later though and we are not as close as we used to be.  I have chosen a different maid of honor, someone that I am extremely close with now.  How do I tell my college friend that she is not the maid of honor just a bridesmaid?

banana468

If she IS a bridesmaid, have you asked her to be a BM?

I wouldn't tell her that she isn't the MOH.  But I would ask her to be a BM if you haven't already.

From there, I'd say, "Is it OK if I email your contact info to the MOH?  She mentioned wanting to send out a group email."

You shouldn't have to tell her what she isn't.

kellbell222

Yes, I have asked her to be a bridesmaid.  I just haven't had the heart to tell her that shes not the maid of honor.  She just made the assumption that she was because we always joked about it in college, but like I said that was four years ago and things have changed. 

banana468

You may want to work the, "My MOH," phrase somewhat nonchalantly into conversation. 

kellbell222

Thanks!

stina93446

One of my bms assumed that she was the MOH. I was her MOH so she thought that it was tit for tat. I just said would you be my bm. My sister is going to be my MOH. That was it pretty much. At the shower even, her mom approached me and asked who the moh was and I just stated "my sister." 

suz62984

Ditto on Banana...Throw in the MOH phrase casually.