No BMs

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One of my best friends is a little hurt because I am not having any attendents at my wedding, and she chose me to be her MOH.  Because the wedding is so small (only 30 people) and I want a more informal wedding, I decided not to have any attendents.  Is there any other way I can try to include her in the wedding, or should I just not worry about it?

ButtonsPepper

She could do a reading, she could sing a song, play some type of instrument. If you aren't doing any of that and really want to incorporate her, you can have her hold the rings, and give them to the officiant (sp?)at the correct time.

I wouldn't "find a place for her" just because she's upset, I'd do it because she means a lot to you and you'd like her involved.

bablingbrooke

Don't worry about it.  She isn't entitled to any spot in your wedding, especially since you aren't having any BMs, and as a fellow bride she should understand how personal a decision it is.  You do what you want.

trix1223

First of all, you friend is being childish.  No one is guaranteed a place in a WP.  I'm going out on a limb here and thinking that your friend chose you to be her MOH because you're friends, not because some day she'd get to be a MOH.  So she needs to get over it.  WPs are not tit for tat.

You can have your friend do a reading, if you really want to include her.  But don't feel that you have to provide her with any special "job" to keep her from being pouty.

Remember, being a guest, especially at a very small wedding is in itself an honor.

banana468

Ditto that she's being rather silly. 

However if you're having readings, that would be a great way to honor her. 

Arther007

I agree with the pp's. I hope your friend stops pouting

aerinpegadrak

It's not like you're choosing someone else to be MOH over her.  You're not having attendants at all, which is a totally different kettle of fish.  It's not an insult to her any more than your color scheme or venue choice is, it's simply a decision about your vision for the wedding.