Is it okay to have only MOH?

cutexkitty

Is it okay to have  only MOH? Will the wedding pictures look out of place to only have 4 people (Bride, Groom, MOH and Bestman)? Will the MOH be overwhelm/overwork on the wedding since she's the only one in the bridal party?

The reason I'm asking is because I don't have many female friends. The friends I have do not live in the same area as I do (I recently moved). The new friends I just made is too early to ask them to be in bridal party (we only hung out twice).  The only MOH is my sister whom lives out of state.

Also, in my culture it's the Bride that pays for the Bridesmaid/MOH expenses because it is viewed as they're doing a favor for the Bride. Therefore it is expected for me to pay for my sister's expenses and other Bridesmaid (if I can have any). I do not want to incur too much expenses relating to bridal party, therefore I'm incline to have small bridal party. If I end up having Bridesmaid in addition to my sister, how much is reasonable to spend on each Bridesmaid?

bablingbrooke

Of course it's okay to have only a MOH; many people do it.  I think you'll be happier having one close friend with you, rather than one close friend and four random other people to fill out the WP.

A "reasonable" amount is in the eye of the beholder and is completely up to you and what your budget can handle.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]Is it okay to have   only MOH? Will the wedding pictures look out of place to only have 4 people (Bride, Groom, MOH and Bestman)? Will the MOH be overwhelm/overwork on the wedding since she's the only one in the bridal party? The reason I'm asking is because I don't have many female friends. The friends I have do not live in the same area as I do (I recently moved). The new friends I just made is too early to ask them to be in bridal party (we only hung out twice).   The only MOH is my sister whom lives out of state. Also, in my culture it's the Bride that pays for the Bridesmaid/MOH expenses because it is viewed as they're doing a favor for the Bride. Therefore it is expected for me to pay for my sister's expenses and other Bridesmaid (if I can have any). I do not want to incur too much expenses relating to bridal party, therefore I'm incline to have small bridal party. If I end up having Bridesmaid in addition to my sister, how much is reasonable to spend on each Bridesmaid?
Posted by cutexkitty[/QUOTE]
#1 - don't ask your wedding party yet.  Wait until you're 6-8 months out from your wedding.  Relationships change over time.  Friendships may end, or you may make a new BFF in that time.  Just.  Wait. 

#2 - when you do choose your WP, it should be composed of the people who are nearest and dearest to you.  Think about who you would call at 3 am to bail you out of jail.  Those people should be your BMs. 

#3 - mixed gender parties and uneven sides are ok.  If your FI has 5 people that he would like to ask to be his GM, do not feel pressured to pick 5 people for your side.  The title of BM is one that you bestow upon your closest friends/family members.  It is not a slot that needs to be filled.  Also, if you don't have any close girlfriends, it is perfectly acceptable to have close men stand on your side.  Just list them in the wedding program as "Bride's Attendants."

bablingbrooke

Tide, love your new pic!  Taryn is too cute!

trix1223

Yes, it's okay to have only a MOH.  It's okay to have NO WP.  That's what my sister did.

It won't be overwhelming for your friend to be the only member of the WP, because the "duties" of a MOH start and end with the ceremony.  She doesn't have to help you plan and/or execute your wedding, or plan, throw, or attend prewedding parties.

Ditto pps:  wait until about 8 months before your wedding to choose anyone.  You may well find that relationships are different by then.

You can also have men in your WP if your closest friends are men.

GL

cutexkitty

Thanks everyone so much for the input. I think I'm jumping the gun too early. I will wait for 6 - 8 months prior to the wedding to see if the situation changes.

artbyallie

I agree with everyone else and just wanted to say that I have been in just such a situation. My uncle had a tiny wedding and his father (my grandfather) was the best man and I was the Maid of Honor. Which was slightly awkward given that I didn't really know his bride all that well but it was nice of her to ask me and she's family now anyway. I assume you'll be asking someone you're close to, and that's the whole point of having any WP at all.

tldh

My brother and his wife were our BM and MOH.  It worked out great since I told SIL to pick out whatever she wanted to wear and told brother to show up in a black suit - we'd have his tie and bout for him.  The pictures all turned out great.

As for her being over worked, her sole duty is to show up on the day of the wedding, hold a bouquet, walk down the aisle, stand next to you and smile for the camera.  That is hardly taxing.

Lisa50

It is absolutely OK to have one attendant.  My FI and I are doing that -- each of us is having a best man.  Teeny, tiny wedding party!