**Update**
I felt like this needed an update considering some of the responses. First, she sent me an emailed message to which my immediate response was to call. She didn't pick up so I left a message for her to return my call. She did call me back later that evening and I thought we had worked it out. I know Facebook isn't the best of things but when I went on later that evening I noticed she had posted things like "Scathing letter sent" and "let the arrows fly". When I asked her about the messages on FB (seeing as how she said she just had to get things off her chest as to not say them to me at the wedding) she said she could say whatever she wanted on FB and don't worry, she didn't tell anyone who she was talking about.
I was just taken aback by the whole situation. It all seemed childish and petty. When I brought up our phone conversation earlier (that we had seemed to work it out) she responded saying she stood by everything in her email (I have emails and texts showing that things happened a different way then what she says in her "scathing letter"). She took it one step further in her FB posts saying "I am so done with these people"- a.k.a. my family).
After one call I thought we cleared the air but she then turned around and started the non-sense all over again.
The resolution ended up being this- Since she did not feel she could support me I told her not to worry about being a bridesmaid but she was still welcome to come to the wedding.
Orginial Message:
I picked my bridesmaids and he picked his groomsmen. 5 and 5. All set to go. Then one lost her job and backed out. I was ok with this. I would rather her worry about herself and her situation then paying for a dress and travel/hotel etc.
Then I had the worst experience with someone who was supposed to be my best friend. (For over 16 years). She decided that two months out from the wedding she would tell me how horrible of a friend I was. That 5 years ago I did X to her and 3 years ago I did Y to her. Then I was insisting that she over pay for a dress because I asked that she not show cleavage at the church (she is a big on top but she wanted to wear an extremely low cut dress). I even gave her money for the dress and told her the matieral and color but said she could pick her style. Apparently asking her to cover up meant that I was ultra jealous of her and was worried that she would "show me up on my big day" (her words). She goes on this rant and then sends me a text giving me 24 hours to respond if I still wanted her to be in my wedding. Sounded like a plot to back out of the wedding but had to twist a knife to make sure I would say no to her being in it.
Anyone else have this issue or was I just the lucky one?