Bridal Party Invites

meganmhildebrand

My fiance and I got engaged a week ago and are unsure of how soon we should contact the men and women whom we would like in our bridal party. How soon is too soon?

lalap69

Definitely wait until you have set a wedding date (and booked the major things, like your venue so it's firm), and then wait until that wedding date is less than a year away.

xoxob

We're doing a year before. It's early, but my best friend ever lives in LA and comes home every Sept to visit her family. We want to have a dinner for everyone, so we're just going to do it when she comes home, so she can be a part of it.

aerinpegadrak

It's not about when you get engaged, it's about when the wedding is.  You absolutely shouldn't ask anyone until you have a firm date (as in, venues are booked and contracts are signed).  Sometimes your preferred dates can change based on budget and availability, and it's really difficult to commit to something when you don't know when it's going to be.

I think a year out from the wedding at the very earliest, but 6-9 months is better.  Even if your relationships don't change, your girls simply won't be able to keep up the excitement level for longer than that.

CTGirl30

Once you have a wedding date and venue (with deposits & contracts signed) then you should ask about 6-9 months out from your wedding date.

Also -If your username is indeed your full name, for your own safety you probably will want to delete your account and start a new one. Anyone on the internet can read these boards and now they'll have your full name and know you're in Atlanta....just sayin'.

gottahavashorti

Wait until you're less than a year from your wedding.  If you're at that point now, consider waiting a few weeks for your excitement level to go down so that you're asking those you truly want in your WP.  I've seen a lot of people say they got excited and asked a bunch of friends right away and regretted it (or wanted to kick them out of the WP).