Okay, so my wedding is in September, so we have a ways to go, but I already asked my best friends to be bridesmaids.
My cousin & I were really close when we were kids, almost like sisters. We promised to be each other's maid of honors, when it came time. Over the past several years, however, she changed into the kind of person I didn't really want to be around, and we just lost touch. About a year ago, she turned her life around, and we are trying to get close again, but it's sort of awkward still. So, I just made her a bridesmaid (not MOH).
I announced my wedding on Black Friday to my family & asked my best friend to be my Maid of Honor. I wasn't really close with my cousin anymore, and I felt that she didn't know me well enough anymore to be my MOH, but felt that I love her a lot and wanted her to be a bridesmaid.This past week, she announced that she's also getting married, but in May. She asked me to be a bridesmaid, and I agreed. But my mom said that she was talking to my cousin, and apparently she's very upset that she isn't my maid of honor. My response was "well, I'm not her's either...", but apparently that's just because she wasn't mine..I guess we were just trying to keep it equal and not make one another feel bad...
Now, my MOH is being a pain, and not really willing to work for her title. I need her here at the end of January for some planning & a bridal expo, and she's making it very difficult for me. So difficult that I'm getting to the point where I want to demote her. But how do I demote her & put my cousin in her place without hurting any feelings?
Should I do a switcharoo, or keep it the way it is & hope for the best?