How should I choose my maid of honor - longtime best friend doesn't seem to want to do it?
I am planning a wedding for this summer and need to choose a maid of honor and bridesmaids.
My best friend (call her Alice) from middle school and I have grown apart during college, though we live together now and have repaired our friendship a bit. I still consider her one of my best friends. Growing up, I always assumed she would be my maid of honor.
When I came to college, I grew close with another girl (call her Megan) who I came to consider my other best friend. She is also getting married this summer, and I am her maid of honor.
I love them both equally and they both mean a lot to me, so I planned to ask Megan (who will be married before me) to be my matron of honor and Alice to be my maid of honor. However, I feel conflicted now, an am not sure if I should ask Alice to be my maid of honor. She doesn't support my upcoming marriage and isn't very happy for me. She thinks I haven't been dating my future husband long enough and thinks I am not ready to get married. Megan does support my marriage and is very excited for me. I plan to go wedding dress shopping soon and invited them both to be a part of it. Megan plans to come, but Alice is acting wishy-washy and seems to be trying to find a way to get out of it. I don't think she wants to help me pick out a dress. I suddenly have a sick feeling about asking her to be my maid of honor. Do I want someone who doesn't want to be involved in this to be recognized as my maid of honor? Yet, she's my best friend, and I feel like she'd be hurt if I didn't ask her.
Advice?