Ring bearer but no flower girl

JillianNJohn

Is this at all common?? Everyone is asking me who our flower girl is and I keep saying we don't have one. Our WP is very small. I have 3 sons from my 1st marriage all in the wedding party.

My Oldest (11) will be walking me down the aisle. Then we have the best man and my 8 yr old as groomsmen. He is incredibly close to FI so we felt it was only appropriate. FI told me from the day we got engaged "I want D up there next to me, he has to be". Son #2 has been telling everyone FI is his extra dad since he was 5 yrs old. Then there's my MOH and her 10 yr old daughter (whom I've known since she was 1 and is best buds with my 8 yr old). Lastly we have my youngest (will be 6) as the "ring man". He refuses to be called a ring bearer as he is convinced it means we are going to make him wear a bear costume all day.

I have no nieces or nephews, FI is an only child. We aren't close enough to anyone with a little girl to be a flower girl and were not about to invite someone just for the sake of having a little girl there. but it seems anyone who asks doesnt understand it.

I hate when people's opinions begin to make me doubt myself, it's not who I normally am.

AddieCake

We had only a ring bearer and no flower girl. It was fine. 

tlc35

We are also having a ring bearer but no flower girl. FI had a 5 yr old nephew and we have no close little girl relatives or friends. It would be silly to try to find someone just to fill that spot.

Jen4948

Flower girls are not required.  You can have ring bearers without them.

If someone asks you and is taken aback by your response, well, they're not showing themselves in a good light by being judgmental, are they?

cba717

I have been dealing with the same thing. We have three nephews and no nieces, so we are having three bearers and no flower girls. It gets frustrating when my friends jokingly volunteer. My go-to response is this: While we have cousins with young girls whom we love, the evenness of our bridal party is not so important that we would ask our cousins to pay money for a specific dress and an extra night in a hotel room. It IS very important to us that everyone sees the importance of our nephews in our lives, which is why we did not choose just one. We want all our guests to see the joy the three boys bring to us.

I hope this is helpful! Good luck!

lovesclimbing

I'm only posting because I think "ring man" is just plain awesome!

cdteal

We only have a ring bearer (ours is actually a 'sign bearer ' but same thing). No flower girl. If you have a younger girl in your family she can be a Junior Bridesmaid but it's your wedding who says you have to have a flower girl right?