Bridal Party Invites

o2bjsc

I'm want to give handmade invites to my bridesmaids but I am having a hard time finding the right wording.  Has anyone else done this before and know of any good sights or poems to include? 

tldh

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[QUOTE]I'm want to give handmade invites to my bridesmaids but I am having a hard time finding the right wording.  Has anyone else done this before and know of any good sights or poems to include? 
Posted by o2bjsc[/QUOTE]

Invites to the wedding or to be a bridesmaid?

If you're planning on issuing a formal invitation to be a bridesmaid, why?  Just ask them.  I will tell you that if someone did this when asking me to be in their wedding, I'd think twice about saying yes.  The reason?  If the bride is going to go overboard on this, what is she going to be like for the rest of the planning process??  I'd be scared to death that you will develop bridezillaitis.

[Deleted User]

Are you talking about wedding invitations or little cards or whatever asking your friends to be BM's? Of course send them a regular wedding invite. As far as asking them to be in the wedding, please just ask them in person. Or take them out to lunch or for coffee. I am not a fan of all this fanfare surrounding asking your WP.

Manwaithiel

Just ask your friends to be your BMs. I would prefer it in person so you can see their reactions. It's fun.

o2bjsc

Dear tldh,

Thank you for your bitter and nasty comment.  I am very thankful that you were available at that time to proof read my post.  In the future I will follow the example you have set with your 2613 posts and not offend anybody with my 13 year old grammar and will go great lengths to reflect my education level. 

Since I am so open to taking your advice, maybe you could return the favor and take some of mine.  Get a grip on reality.  We are here because we are getting married and excited about the prospect of incuding our loved ones in one of the most important days of our lives.  If you have nothing better to do than to be mean and nasty to those of us trying to organize ourselves then you need to get off of the message boards because I can only imagine what the rest of your 2613 posts said.  The only thing I have to base my opinion of you on is a written medium and I would rather be thought of as an illiterate 13 year old than a mean and nasty bully.

        

For all of the others who posted, 

Thank you for your responses.  I have only been engaged for a week and my excitement has gotten a little ahead of myself.  Maybe I will wait and save my creative energy for planning the ceremony and reception.   

jc04100657

I think sending cards is very cute! I only have 1 girl that lives close to me and the others are out of state so I sent "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards to them all and they all loved them! They all called me after they received them and were excited and all said yes! I put this poem in my card that I found online:

"The day,the dress
The bride, the groom
The joy, the tears
Will all come too soon

Professing true love
To my husband-to-be
With family and friends
All watching me

Because to me you mean so much
I have one thing to say which I will phrase as such:
Nothing would give me more joy and pride.
Than to have you up there right by my side

You've stood right beside me thoughout thick and thin
And I want you to be there when I marry him
Many great memories I have shared with your smile.
So, I want you to meet me at the end of the aisle."

Hope this helps!

tldh

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[QUOTE]Dear tldh, Thank you for your bitter and nasty comment.  I am very thankful that you were available at that time to proof read my post.  In the future I will follow the example you have set with your 2613 posts and not offend anybody with my 13 year old grammar and will go great lengths to reflect my education level.  Since I am so open to taking your advice, maybe you could return the favor and take some of mine.  Get a grip on reality.  We are here because we are getting married and excited about the prospect of incuding our loved ones in one of the most important days of our lives.  If you have nothing better to do than to be mean and nasty to those of us trying to organize ourselves then you need to get off of the message boards because I can only imagine what the rest of your 2613 posts said.  The only thing I have to base my opinion of you on is a written medium and I would rather be thought of as an illiterate 13 year old than a mean and nasty bully.          For all of the others who posted,  Thank you for your responses.  I have only been engaged for a week and my excitement has gotten a little ahead of myself.  Maybe I will wait and save my creative energy for planning the ceremony and reception.   
Posted by o2bjsc[/QUOTE]

IT'S A SIGNATURE AND NOT DIRECTED AT YOU!!!!!  THERE'S A RASH OF GIRLS WHOSE INSIST ON TYPING IN TEXT SPEAK AND IT'S DIRECTED AT THEM.  IT SHOWS UP ON EVERY. SINGLE. POST.

LURK A BIT AND YOU'LL SEE THAT MANY OF US HAVE A QUOTE OF SOMEONE ELSES IN THEIR SIGGY LINE.

jennylove810

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[QUOTE]Dear tldh, Thank you for your bitter and nasty comment.  I am very thankful that you were available at that time to proof read my post.  In the future I will follow the example you have set with your 2613 posts and not offend anybody with my 13 year old grammar and will go great lengths to reflect my education level.  Since I am so open to taking your advice, maybe you could return the favor and take some of mine.  Get a grip on reality.  We are here because we are getting married and excited about the prospect of incuding our loved ones in one of the most important days of our lives.  If you have nothing better to do than to be mean and nasty to those of us trying to organize ourselves then you need to get off of the message boards because I can only imagine what the rest of your 2613 posts said.  The only thing I have to base my opinion of you on is a written medium and I would rather be thought of as an illiterate 13 year old than a mean and nasty bully.          For all of the others who posted,  Thank you for your responses.  I have only been engaged for a week and my excitement has gotten a little ahead of myself.  Maybe I will wait and save my creative energy for planning the ceremony and reception.   
Posted by o2bjsc[/QUOTE]

Whoa newb, if you think<em> that</em> was bitter and nasty, and plan on going nuclear every time someone posts a differing opinion to yours, you're headed for a world of misery on this site.  Relax, it's all good.

mkrupar

OP you have all of 2 posts (well one because I won't count that crap you directed at tildh as a post) if you had lurked, you would have seen that many people have quotes in their signatures. You would have seen that when tildh posts it shows up IN EVERY ONE OF THEM!

You need to grow some thicker skin if you're going to stick around on these boards. Not everything is directed at you and your misguided attitude. PPs gave great advice, just ak your BP. Don't make everything a production. It'll get old real fast.

And yeah, you owe tildh an apology, but somehow feel like you won't ever come back. Hopefully you're hiding in a hole from embarrasment.

aerinpegadrak

I think someone needs to learn a bit more about message boards before venturing out on the internet...

Manwaithiel

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[QUOTE]Technically it's MY bitter and nasty comment.... Other than that, pretty much everything that Retread and Trix said.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Troublemaker... ;)

mattycam

I sent my BM a card with a poem inside; just wanted to be creative. 

kmd0501

I plan on doing the same thing when the time comes around.  I still have quite awhile to go though.  I posted the same question and got pretty much the same rude and nasty responses that I was a bridezilla and didnt need to makea huge production out of everything...but im not.  All of my friends know me and I hand make cards for every occasion (birthdays, anniversarys, etc.) and I scrapbook so being creative is what they expect from me.  This is about the only part of my wedding that I even really care much about, simply because its a big deal to me to ask my friends to share this day with me so I want it to be special for them too.  I have never met anyone who got the impression that sending a card was being overdramatic and controlling, except for these girls.

Anyways...

www.hobartsprinting.com/wording_invitation_12.php" target="_blank">http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wording_invitation_12.php

this site had some cute poems that i liked.  I also had someone suggest to me to send each girl a christmas ornament (if thats in your time frame of asking) with a note attached and i loved that idea.  Another girl suggested sending a small flower arrangement made of your colors or doing a candle in a jar with beads.

I dont see ANYTHING wrong with doing this.  It doesnt come off as bridezilla or overcontrolling.  Its just something thats special to you, and thats what your wedding day should be about; all the things that are special to you.  I could care less what flowers i use at my wedding, how my hair looks or what color the napkins are...but I want the girls in my wedding to know that they mean the world to me and I that asking them to share this day with me isnt the same as asking them to go get coffee, but that it is truely something i will remember forever.

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]I plan on doing the same thing when the time comes around.  I still have quite awhile to go though.  <strong>I posted the same question and got pretty much the same rude and nasty responses that I was a bridezilla and didnt need to makea huge production out of everything...but im not. </strong> All of my friends know me and I hand make cards for every occasion (birthdays, anniversarys, etc.) and I scrapbook so being creative is what they expect from me.  This is about the only part of my wedding that I even really care much about, simply because its a big deal to me to ask my friends to share this day with me so I want it to be special for them too.  I have never met anyone who got the impression that sending a card was being overdramatic and controlling, except for these girls. Anyways... <a href="http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wording_invitation_12.php" rel="nofollow">www.hobartsprinting.com/wording_invitation_12.php</a> " target="_blank"> <a href="http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wording_invitation_12.php" rel="nofollow">http://www.hobartsprinting.com/wording_invitation_12.php</a> this site had some cute poems that i liked.  I also had someone suggest to me to send each girl a christmas ornament (if thats in your time frame of asking) with a note attached and i loved that idea.  Another girl suggested sending a small flower arrangement made of your colors or doing a candle in a jar with beads. I dont see ANYTHING wrong with doing this.  It doesnt come off as bridezilla or overcontrolling.  Its just something thats special to you, and thats what your wedding day should be about; all the things that are special to you.  I could care less what flowers i use at my wedding, how my hair looks or what color the napkins are...but I want the girls in my wedding to know that they mean the world to me and I that asking them to share this day with me isnt the same as asking them to go get coffee, but that it is truely something i will remember forever.
Posted by kmd0501[/QUOTE]
Okay, shortcake, no one dropped the b-word here.  Just pointing out that not everything involving the wedding needs to be a production--many people are actually relieved to hear that.  OP was the only rude on in this case by flying off the handle at tldh because she thought her signature was 1) rude and 2) directed at her specifically.  Post what you want, but little comments like that are just mature, non-value-added, and objectively untrue.<div>
</div><div>You mention you typically do this stuff--great.  When I typically answer this question, I usually say that if you normally do this sort of thing, you should be able to come up with the idea on your own and it would be genuine; if you need strangers to help you it's probably not your thing and it wouldn't be genuine.  But to create a gross generalization like that is really unfair.</div>