Brother as bridal attendant?

loganelaine

Hello!

My fiance has 4 guys (dad, uncle, and 2 friends) he wants as groomsmen, but I only have 3 girlfriends I want in my wedding.  Call it pride, but I hate the thought of me having one less person standing up there.    Would it be weird to ask my brother (my only sibbling) to stand up on my side?  Also, if any of you have asked a guy to stand with the bride, were they a little weirded out by it?  I live in Missouri...so things tend to be pretty traditional.  I'm cool with it...just not sure how other people would feel. 

Thanks

SarahPLiz

That is not weird at all, and is perfectly acceptable. Even sides are not necessary, but if you are close to your brother and would like him to stand up with you, then go for it. Your WP should be those you are closest to, regardles of number, physical distance, finances, or gender.

CTGirl30

WPs don't have to be even - I promise that no one will think less of you if you have 3 people on your side and your FI has 4 on his side. Nobody will be thinking "She clearly doesn't have as many friends as her FI. What a loser."  So, with that said, ask your brother if you truly want him to be one of your honored attendants. Don't ask him if you're looking to simply add on one more person to even up the sides.

I have my 4 closest friends as BMs. FI will have his brother as best man and their nephew as a junior groomsman. We're not really concerned about matching, obvs, and I'm not worried about anyone thinking anything about me having more people than him, etc. It's not a big deal. Promise.

gottahavashorti

If you want him to be in your WP, he should be in your WP.  But even sides shoudln't be a consideration.

mbcdefg

Quite honestly, I think I find it MORE weird when I see a perfectly matched bridal party (and this is coming from someone with two bridesmaids and two groomsmen). I think to myself, "Did they REALLY just so happen to have the same number of close friends, or did they each ask [number of] people just so they'd have even sides?" I find uneven sides a LOT more natural than uneven sides, because a couple's friends are typically never matched up in real life.

It would be awesome to have your brother with you! Just be sure you're asking him because you're close, and not just so you'll have even sides.

If your guests find it "weird" that your brother/a guy is a close friend, then who cares what they think? Obviously they're too small-minded to realize that a penis isn't a barrier to friendship. Why should your only friends in life be women?

loganelaine

Well, my bro and I are close...we lived together for a couple of years after I graduated college and while he was in college.  I think it would be fun.  I'm a bit afraid he might not like the idea of standing with the girls.  (Even though, he'd be dressed identical to the groomsmen and hang out w/ the guys during the day, and probably even for pictures.)

Thanks for the input, everyone!

quotequeen

My brother is standing with me and two of FI's sisters are standing with him.  It's pretty common these days.  Personally, I would find it weirder that your FI was having his father as a groomsman.