Maid of Honor a must or not?

Linny421

Do i need to have a maid of honor? i have some close-ish girlfriends but no one i'd want to really leave that title on and i have a brother that i'm close with but i don't know how i feel about having him as my maid of honor. i've thought about my mom, but want her to enjoy her day as mother of the bride and not worry about even more duties as MOH.
do i absolutely need one?

AddieCake

They all do the same thing, so titles are really not necessary. I didn't designate either of my bridesmaids the MOH. Also, there are no "duties" as MOH, so don't use that to make a decision. 

If you want your brother, have him. He would be the Man of Honor, though, not the Maid. 

Jessa617

Here's the great thing about planning your own wedding. You can essentially do whatever you want. You can have no wedding party at all, you can have just bridesmaids, or a bridesman, you can have two MOH if you want.

CallaLily25

No, you definitely don't need to have a MOH. Do whatever you're most comfortable with! If you're close with your brother and you'd like him to be your man of honor, that would be great!

j-harvey

Baring disability, the person standing closest to you would usually hold your bouquet and straighten your train. Your first attendant would usually be the most obvious choice as a legal witness, if you need them. No one needs to be designated officially as a maid/matron/man of honor.

Andama08

I don't have a Maid of Honor, only a Matron, she is my only sister but if I didn't have her I wouldn't have a Maid or Matron either

stareyes59

I didn't want a bridal party at all. However, my fiancé asked his brother to be his best man before he asked me to marry him. So I picked my brother as my "Man" of honor. I couldn't be happier with my decision. Good Luck!

PrettyGirlLost

Depends on whether or not you are having a religious ceremony.  If you are having a Catholic Mass, for instance, you MUST have a MoH and BM to stand on the alter with you.

If you are not having a religious cermeony, you can do whatever you want!

gctojf

I am also indecisive about having a MOH. I have a close friend from which we began as best friends at an earlier time in our lives and I have known her since youth, elementary school to be precise but over the course of the recent years we have grown apart. We are great when we are together but do not communicate like best friends should. I have also attempted to reach out to her to have dinner/drinks and things of that nature but for some reason or another the plans fall through.

Come to think of it her reaction when I called her the night I was proposed was less than stellar. I anticipated jubilation but instead got a watered down congratulations and to this day she hasn't inquired about the planning nor anything regarding my wedding.

As I write this I am certain I do not need or want a MOH. Some of the traditions can be broken or amended to one's liking. In this case I am completely happy with having only bridesmaids.

Ecstatic bride-to-be