Less than two months until my wedding and everything is going great except some bridesmaid trouble... I have four bridesmaids, two from out of town far away i am on the east coast and they are in Alaska and Oregon and two from the town I have lived in for five years. The two locals have been my best friends here and have been a great source of support for the entire time I have been dating my fianc. I asked them to be in the wedding party because they had been super excited during the early stages of our engagement and I was excited to have them be part of things. Now I just don't know what to do... over the six months they have known they were in the wedding they haven't indicated any excitement about anything, they have complained I chose too expensive of a dress I asked them to pick any Alfred Angelo dress in my color and they were around 130 and they made no move to have any sort of bachelorette event until my other friends started harassing them about doing something. I told them that it seemed like they werent really into this whole wedding thing and that it was ok with me if other friends who were in the wedding planned a bachelorette celebration. They both assured me that they were really into it and really wanted to be involved. Then a few days after that convo one of them tells me she wants to take a red eye flight from the west coast to our east coast wedding and will arrive at noon for our 2:00 wedding ceremony as long as the flight is on time. I told her it would be really nice if she could attend our rehearsal considering she is in the wedding party and she said she wouldn't be able to fly back a day earlier because she might want to do some networking but she has no plans for that yet but might want to have some meetings. Many friends and my fianc have told me I have every right to be angry about this. Do y'all agree with that? If she had a presentation to give or a planned conflict I might be less upset but she isn't really going to gain anything by staying at this conference for an extra day I'm in the same job and know this for sure. Meanwhile, one of our mutual friends was so pissed off that he called the absent bridesmaid and yelled at her for me and told her she was behaving badly, so it sounds like she will arrive to attend the rehearsal. Meanwhile, I feel like I am not asking a lot to ask that she attend the rehearsal, attend the wedding and to buy a dress for 130. We are providing her lodging at the wedding and it is a short drive for her. Am I being crazy to contemplate telling her that it might be better for her not to not part of the wedding? She's really caused me nothing but anxiety and stress but I still dont want to lose her as a friend.