MOH Help?

Melox

Hola everybody i have this problem with choosing my MOH i feel i should have my best friend of many years but i have gone threw so much more with another friend and would rather have them do you think my friend of many years would be disappointed if i didnt give her the job ?

gottahavashorti

It's not a job.  Choose the one you are closest to (not geographically) or they can be co-Maids of Honor.

leahlu

Make one the MOH and the other a bridesmaid. I personally wouldn't feel slighted if I were the other friend. I think the only difference between the two is just a different title, both are still included in your wedding.

emilyinchile

You can also have 2 MOHs or no MOH and all BMs if you feel like you really can't choose between the two.

And definitely listen to shorti's advice.

CTGirl30

Being asked to be part of someone's bridal party (whether as a BM or MOH)  is an honor, not a job description.

You have a couple of options:

Think about the friend you are closest with and ask her to be MOH and ask the other person to be BM.

Ask them both to share in co-MOH role.

Don't designate a MOH and have everyone be BMs.

Do not have a BP at all.

I have 4 attendants and could not choose amongst them so they are all BMs. There is no MOH. It's perfectly fine. For the wedding day we weill determine who stands next to me by order of height - the tallest girl will end up next to me (they can wear whatever shoes they choose so it might be a suprise the morning of) :-) . If anyone wants to give a toast at teh reception, it will be up to whomever decides they are most comfortable with the whole public speaking thing.

bablingbrooke

Can't they both be MOH?  

mbcdefg

Your absolute best friend should be the MOH. Doesn't matter how long you've known her or what she can do for you or if she's the best at wedding planning.

Think to yourself, "Who is my closest friend?" Whoever comes to mind first is probably the right choice. If you are equally close to both girls, have two Maids of Honor. If you're not super-close to either, then just don't pick a MOH and have everyone be a bridesmaid.

What do you mean that you've "gone [through]" more with the other friend? Why does that make you feel like she should be MOH instead? Are you closer to her than you are to the older friend? Do you feel that the newer friend will be a better helper? Do you feel that the distance of their home from yours should be the deciding factor?

stina93446

You can have two MOHs. There is no rule against it. But like pp said, it's not a job. It's an honor. Have whoever you are closest to get the honor if you want.

Salem205

I would have two MOH if I were you...

Even though this day will be about you... try not to forget that these people who are the closest to you- have feelings too. If you have been Bestfriends with this person for a long time- I would honor that, because they have stuck by you for years and probably know you very well...

someone you just meet with and click with may not be there a few years from now. Even if you have been through alot.

but if you disagree, and feel this person is going to be there for you for years to come (like a new best friend) I would have two MOH.

Anyone who tells you that you have to choose one is setting you up to hurt someone else which can lead to complications later.