Prego Bridesmaids!

roobaby2

So I have 6 bridesmaids and 3 of them are currently pregnant and one is planning on being pregnant in the next few months. My wedding is in April. Yes, I'm very happy for them but one of them is due on my wedding day and the other only a few weeks earlier.  I'm stressing out! I would hate for them to spend their money on the dress and everything and not be able to even come. Should I replace them? Or just wait till the week of and find out if they can even make it? Also, what do I do for the bachelorette party as 4 of them will be expecting???

JaxInBlue

Don't replace the pregnant bridesmaids.  Don't imply they should step down.

Consider making your dress criteria very open - give the whole group a color, length, possibly a fabric and let each gal pick something that works for her body.  Or do something simple like wear a black dress.  Give a shoe color and leave it at that so some can wear flats if they want.

List them in the program, even if they can't attend.  If they are local and can't attend the wedding, maybe ask the florist to send their bouquet to them as an arrangement.  Let all of your bridesmiads sit during the ceremony. 

As for your bachelorette, you don't have to worry about it!  You don't plan your own so if you are asked for suggestions you can think about things like a spa day, a movie night, a show and dinner, or something else that would be pregnant-gal friendly.

The bottom line is to be flexible.  Let your friends and how they are feeling dedicate the choices they make.  You asked them to stand up with you to honor the relationship you have with them, and their pregnancies don't change that.

ifeelgoodifeelgreatifeelwonderful

Wow that's going to be a lot of hormones to deal with! You shouldn't replace anyone. Frankly, if I was due on your wedding date I would have declined being a bridesmaid, but if they haven't yet I would wait it out. If your wedding is not until April you have plenty of time before you need to look at dresses anyways. I doubt they will wait until the week of, but I would think when you are shopping for dresses the reality of if they can be in your wedding or not will hit them before they pay for a dress.

If you have a bachelorette party it will be given to you by your bridesmaids so they will I'm sure plan something they feel comfortable doing although I can guess it won't be the wild night out you might be envisioning.

roobaby2

You are so right!!  I just remember how miserable I was pregnant and how I didn't want to do anything before or after the baby. Just would hate to burden them with the stress of my wedding. You make very good points! And yes I will  make the dress belly friendly

mrsweeber

If they one is due in April and one is due only a couple of weeks before, they must have just found out they are pregnant. An April due date would put her at 7 weeks at the most right now. Give them time to decide what the pregnancy may mean for their future plans-including being in your wedding. They may decide that they don't need it hanging over them (not meant in the negative way that could be read) and step down themselves. I had 2 pregnant gals at my bachelorette party and they had just as much fun as everyone else-without the added headache the next morning. I agree with pp regarding dresses. I told my bridesmaids short, black, any fabric, texture, etc. and I purchased matching shoes for them. Let your bridesmaids talk to you about this transition in their life, rather than going to them with your concerns.

Summer2011Bride

One of my 4 BMs was due two weeks after my wedding, but her first baby was so premature, there was a good chance she'd either deliver early or be on bed rest and unable to attend. I told her to pick any dress she wanted that was the same color (black, so it was easy) and cocktail length. That way she could wait longer to make sure she was able to attend and she could pick a dress that she was comfortable in. I would probably do the same with your BMs.

You don't plan your own bachelorette anyway, and if someone hosts one for you, invite all your BMs. I don't see how them being pregnant would interfere at all. If they don't want to go, they can decline.

LeiselEB

I had a bridesmaid due on my wedding day, and she ended up dropping out. I left the decision entirely up to her - I'd suggest doing the same. It's nothing you need to be stressing about. 

tarzana21

Agree with the posts above.  I have a pregnant bm and she is due three weeks after my day.  If she shows up that is amazing and a trooper and if she can't make it I look forward to seeing pictures of her healthy baby girl.  Just roll with it because this could and will probably be a last minute decision for everyone.