I have bridesmaids but he has no groomsmen, help!!

QKD314

We are having a destination wedding, bottom line, his friends are not in the financial place to afford to go SO I am stuck with three bridesmaids and NO groomsmen!!! Ideas on how to make this work?

Thanks

SarahPLiz

Uneven parties are perfectly fine. This is not a crisis. Just take a deep breath.
 
If he REALLY wants them to go, he can help pay their way. If they can't go, he could ask them anyway and list them in the program, even though they aren't physically there.

Please don't forve him to pick 3 people he isnt close to that can afford to go just so your sides are even. Just have your BMs and let him be.

mbcdefg

How are you "stuck" with three bridesmaids? They're your friends, I assume, so why would you feel "stuck" with them?

How do you make it work? Just have the BMs process down and up the aisle as normal. They can either stand next to just you, or behind the officiant and be standing for the two of you. If any of the girls are your FI's sisters or his own friends, those people could also stand on his side as his attendants. Or they can just walk down the aisle and then sit in the front, and the MOH can come forward to get your bouquet or hold the ring or whatever you need her to do.

If you have a program, you could list them as "Wedding Party" or "attendants" and just consider them to be standing for both you and FI, rather than just you.

Or just do everything as normal and don't worry about it. People really don't care. It will only be a big deal if you choose to make it one.

banana468

While it's unfortunate that your FI's friends can't make it, that's the only issue.

Keep the three lovely women as your BMs and just have an uneven BP.  They're just fine.

liz745

You can have uneven WP this is not a problem. Just have them walk down the asile like normal...pretty much just do everything like you normally would, no one will think its wierd

stina93446

Ditto everyone else. You really don't have an issue here. you're stressing yourself out over nothing.

CTGirl30

I think mbcdefg has great advice / options for you.

It's definately not a crisis, although it is unfortunate that FI's friends are not able to attend.

jennywinks

Just breathe! Our wedding party is looking pretty uneven with my 4 BMs and his 2 GMs.  The decision here is who walks alone?! haha, Seriously, I understand the need to make everything even, but in the end it'll be all those little things that will make your wedding unique and all yours!

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]Just breathe! Our wedding party is looking pretty uneven with my 4 BMs and his 2 GMs.  The decision here is who walks alone?! haha, Seriously, I understand the need to make everything even, but in the end it'll be all those little things that will make your wedding unique and all yours!
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Jenny: You could have each groomsman escort two bridesmaids, or you could have the groomsmen wait up front with your fiance and the girls could all walk in unaccompanied (they've been walking around by themselves for years...they can handle it!).