Ladies, please advise... I am twelve days away from my new years day wedding and (obviously) coming down to the very nitty gritty of the whole wedding. over the past week we have lost my eighteen year old cat (awful), had my final dress fitting (awful- my mom and i ended up having to find a new dress TWO WEEKS before wedding..it worked out but i DO NOT recommend), my bachelorette (fabulous-but i rolled my ankle and cannot walk still) and got my hair trimmed (again, awful- supposed to get 1 inch taken off, my hair is now 3.5 inches shorter and lost all of it's length)..in other words I DON'T THINK THAT I CAN TAKE MUCH MORE STRESS! Now, add to this my MOH who i have known since senior year of high school..to begin with when i got engaged SHE invited herself to be the MOH, at the time i didn't plan on having any bridesmaids and meant to go to hawaii to avoid all of the stress (oops) and so i did not think anything of it..now fast forward one year and i have three girls, with the original "MOH". She has been absolutely MIA for EVERYTHING even going as far as forgetting my shower date, and then telling me she didn't even buy the gift (that was not on the registry) herself. I have had my feelings hurt as she obviously has drifted considerably since the original MOH naming and now i feel awful to the two other girls who have both filled in where she has not. At the wedding who do i have stand next to me? The girl who has been absolutely non-existent? Or the girl that i have known since i was fourteen and has been there every step of the way? Who does the DJ announce as the MOH? Is it fair to demote the girls who have been whole-heartedly involved and sincere (MOH does not even check in to see how things are going..i know she is busy that is fair but the two other girls both just started new high responsibilty jobs..as opposed to just finishing your bachelors). I honestly feel awful because i know who should get the title of MOH but is it fair to spring it on the "MOH" this late...any advice is greatly appreciated...i am going to go rip my hair out now..thanks..