FG/RB Questions

Mimi63

So I know that I am totally over thinking this, but I am type A when it comes to planning so I just wanted to see if anyone could help me with this.

 I have two flower girls and one ringbearer. They are alll close in age. FG#1 is FI's cousin. FG#2 and RB are my cousins. I am trying to figure out how they will walk down the aisle.

They aisle is not very wide so they will not all fit at once.

The choices are to have them all walk by themself, have the two FG walk together, or to have FG#2 and RB walk together.

The only reason that I am not sure about having the FG walk together is because I know that when I am in a wedding I know that I get annoyed when I get a really cute pic of my walking down the aisle but I am on the arm of a guy whose name I don't even know. I don't want to do that to our cousins. 

BTW... I am 95% sure that the wedding party will all be walking solo, if that makes any difference.   

Thanks so much! 

banana468

How old are the children?

If they're very young I'd be flexible with how they're processing.

If they're old enough to know what they're doing, why not have the two FGs walk together with the RB behind or in front?

Mimi63

The flower girls will be 5 & 6. The ring bearer will be 4.

banana468

I think having the FGs walk together with the RB by himself can work really well then.

The other idea is to just let things happen as they may.  There's something just delightfully whimsical about looking at children as they walk down the aisle when they're in a wedding. 

irishxmyst

FWIW, when I was 7, I was a FG in my uncle's wedding.  The other FG was my uncle's best friend's daughter who was also my age.  I sort of knew her, but since she lived in CO and I lived in NY we didn't see e/o much before the wedding.  Anyways, we walked down the aisle together and played together the whole RD & wedding and everything was perfectly fine and I didn't feel weird.  And looking back at pictures, I just smile and laugh and still don't feel weird.  You might just be overanalyzing this and kids might not process things like an adult might.  Then again, it depends on the kids and only you would truly know that.

trix1223

You're overthinking this.  You're also thinking of this like an adult instead of seeing it from a child's perspective.  Here's a reality check for you:  tell me anything you remember from when you were 4 or 5 years old.  Answer:  almost nothing.

Although your wedding day will be the most important day in your life, it's a blip on the radar screen of a 4 or 5 year old.  Do you really think that 20 years from now they'll care about being in a phoro with someone they don't know?  Answer:  no, because they won't really remember even being in your WP.

I teach 4/5 year olds in preschool.  They spend hours and hours and hours each month with me.  And less than 18 months after they leave my class and go on to kindergarten, they don't recognize me if I run into them at Target.

Let your little RB walk in with the men in the WP, and let your l'il FG's walk down the aisle together, and stop thinking too hard about this. 

mrsamyjones

ideally it would look best if the rb went first then the two fgs followed. but here's the reality little kids have a mind of their own when they are in weddings. You may be able to start them at the right time, but they might all meet up in the middle of the aisle and sit down, you really just never know. so i wouldnt worry about it...send them down and wish them luck on making it to the alter