Bridesmaid Dilemma

Heartwood0519

So two years ago I was planning a wedding that didn't end up happening. I called it off 4 months before hand and obviously I had already picked my bridesmaids.  I had a total of 6 girls I had asked to stand up for me.  Two weeks ago, I got engaged and we're starting to plan our wedding.  Before we got engaged, we had talked about what kind of wedding we wanted and whatnot, and he told me that he only wants 3 groomsmen.  

How do I cut my bridemaids from 6 to 3 without hurting feelings?  Also, my bridesmaids come in "pairs".  One pair is my sister and my cousin, one pair are my 2 best friends from high school, and the other pair are my 2 best friends from college, so I can't split up the pairs.  

My sister and cousin I definitely want no matter what, but how do I choose a third?  I was thinking about asking a really good friend of mine that I talk to more often than the rest, but she wasn't in my party originally.  Is that rude?  Can I include the others in some way without making it a circus?  Like maybe have the other 4 be usherettes?  Is that mean?  I'm a people pleaser and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.  I'd love suggestions!

ajmom2two

So you have 6 and he has 3.  Each groomsmen gets to look extra studly and escort 2 bridesmaids.  No more problem!

Winnertag1

The number of bridesmaids and the number of groomsmen dont have to be equal. 

mbcdefg

"Equal numbers mean more to me than your friendships, so I'm going to cut a few of you in order to keep the sides even. I hope your feelings aren't hurt!"

Do you really think there's a way to say this to your friends and NOT hurt their feelings?

Wouldn't it be easier to just select who you want, even if the sides aren't even?

Who do you think is honestly going to give a crap whether your sides are even or not?

aerinpegadrak

If you still want all six, have all six.  If there are any that you're only asking because you'd asked them to be in the previous wedding, I wouldn't worry about that.  Our wedding ended up being 6 and 4.  Even sides are falling by the wayside.

babe915

Have the GM be extra lucky with a girl on each arm

smears09

Have all 6 my FI and I don't have even sides. I have 5 and a possible 6th. He has 4. One of my maids is going to walk with the flower girl and if I ask the 6th the last 2 maids are going to walk with one of the grooms men... Lucky guy

kala+joshua825

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[QUOTE]So two years ago I was planning a wedding that didn't end up happening. I called it off 4 months before hand and obviously I had already picked my bridesmaids.  I had a total of 6 girls I had asked to stand up for me.  Two weeks ago, I got engaged and we're starting to plan our wedding.  Before we got engaged, we had talked about what kind of wedding we wanted and whatnot, and he told me that he only wants 3 groomsmen.   How do I cut my bridemaids from 6 to 3 without hurting feelings?  Also, my bridesmaids come in "pairs".  One pair is my sister and my cousin, one pair are my 2 best friends from high school, and the other pair are my 2 best friends from college, so I can't split up the pairs.   My sister and cousin I definitely want no matter what, but how do I choose a third?  I was thinking about asking a really good friend of mine that I talk to more often than the rest, but she wasn't in my party originally.  Is that rude?  Can I include the others in some way without making it a circus?  Like maybe have the other 4 be usherettes?  Is that mean?  I'm a people pleaser and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.  I'd love suggestions!
Posted by Heartwood0519[/QUOTE]

I'd say two girls on each GM would be perfect. But if you're totally deadset on even numbers, then choose other jobs for the girls. I was just at a wedding last weekend who had usherettes, and they were adorable. There's also personal attendant, etc.