XP: pay for stylist for MOHs?

PJSPJS

I'm making arrangements with a hair and make-up stylist (the same person) for my October wedding. I don't have bridesmaids. I do have two MOHs. One of them doesn't wear make-up and is unlikely to do so for the wedding. She also doesn't really style or arrange her very short hair. The other MOH is rather particular about her hair, and I'm sure she'll be having it done by her own stylist a few days before the wedding.

Nevertheless, should I at least offer to pay for my stylist to do their hair & make-up too on the morning of the wedding if they want it? I have no qualms about paying for it: it just never occurred to me (until now) to ask them. 

aragx6

If you want them to have their hair and makeup done by a person of your choosing then you need to pay for it, but otherwise you're under no obligation to do so. What I did was tell my girls that the stylist will be at the hotel to do hair for anyone that would like it and that the costs is $65. I then reiterated that they are more than welcome to use their own stylist, do it themselves or use mine.

aerinpegadrak

If they have the option to use yours or do their own thing, it's fine to pass along the contact information and pricing and let them make their own arrangements.  If you say, "This is the stylist we're using and we're all getting ready together," the cost is on you.  (I had a DW, so it was easier to go the second route than to leave them to try to research salons.)  Offering to cover the cost anyway even if they have an option or go to someone else is always a really nice thing to do if you can swing the budget, since they're doing it for you.  But if you simply can't afford it, the best thing to do is to leave them to their own devices and trust them to work it out.

mbcdefg

"I'm hiring a hair stylist and a makeup artist to work on me for the wedding day. If you would like to use either of them or both of them, please let me know. I will book the appointment for you, and I will pay for it as a treat. You will/will not be responsible for the tip. If you don't want to use them, feel free to go to your own stylists or do your own hair and makeup however you please. Please let me know by [date] what you want to do so that I can give the stylists a final number."

If you don't want to pay for it (which is fine, as long as you are not requiring pro hair/makeup), simply leave out the bolded part.

PJSPJS

Thanks!

AceKat

When my brother got married, I was a bridesmaid.  My sister in law told all of her bridal party that she didn't care how it looked (within reason), but that everyone needed to wear makeup and have their hair in an up-do.  For those of us who wanted it, she also gave us recommendations of products/artists/stylists.

ktosh19

I'm in a kind of similar situation. We are having a destination wedding and no wedding party. We do however have a couple close friends and our immediate family coming out to join us. We kind of see everyone as being "honorary wedding party". I plan on getting my nails done when we get there (hair and makeup on my own), and I would love to have any of the ladies that are interested join me. I don't want it to be a requirement by any means, but do I still offer to pay? My fiance has some younger sisters that would not be able to afford it, so we would likely be paying for them either way. Everybody is spending quite a bit to get to our wedding, so I feel like I should be offering to pay for all the women (up to 7) to get at least pedicures. We are by no means "well-off", so it would definitely stretch our budget, but I feel like our friends/family have done the same to be there for us.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]I'm in a kind of similar situation. We are having a destination wedding and no wedding party. We do however have a couple close friends and our immediate family coming out to join us. We kind of see everyone as being "honorary wedding party". I plan on getting my nails done when we get there (hair and makeup on my own), and I would love to have any of the ladies that are interested join me. I don't want it to be a requirement by any means, but do I still offer to pay? My fiance has some younger sisters that would not be able to afford it, so we would likely be paying for them either way. Everybody is spending quite a bit to get to our wedding, so I feel like I should be offering to pay for all the women (up to 7) to get at least pedicures. We are by no means "well-off", so it would definitely stretch our budget, but I feel like our friends/family have done the same to be there for us.
Posted by ktosh19[/QUOTE]
I would probably plan it in your budget to offer.  We also had a DW, and we covered pretty much all of the guests' expenses other than hotel over the course of the official wedding weekend (Thursday night-Saturday morning).  We did a lot of research and legwork to make sure we didn't go broke doing so, but I know that the guests really appreciated that they were well-cared for, especially because of the time and money commitment just to get there.