Wedding Party Members?

mds52088

I was curious what sort of "jobs" you guys have/had for the wedding party at your wedding. Jobs as in guest book attendant, bridesmaids, ect. I just don't want to forget anything or anyone.

Fancypantsamy

I don't think jobs like "guestbook attendant" are actually honors. I'm sticking with bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl and a reader. The furthest I'm going is I'm getting the mother of my flower girl a corsage - she's a good friend of mine, and having her daughter be my flower girl is my way of including her. But yeah, I'd skip the guestbook attendant thing- people can figure out how to sign their name themselves and it seems like a really lame thing to get stuck doing. 

mds52088

My idea for that was for them to do more than actually the guest book. I was going to have them mostly make sure that people grab their escort cards, sign in, and show them where to put their gifts.

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[QUOTE]I don't think jobs like "guestbook attendant" are actually honors. I'm sticking with bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl and a reader. The furthest I'm going is I'm getting the mother of my flower girl a corsage - she's a good friend of mine, and having her daughter be my flower girl is my way of including her. But yeah, I'd skip the guestbook attendant thing- people can figure out how to sign their name themselves and it seems like a really lame thing to get stuck doing. 
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Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]I was curious what sort of "jobs" you guys have/had for the wedding party at your wedding. Jobs as in guest book attendant, bridesmaids, ect. I just don't want to forget anything or anyone.
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Honors are bridesmaid, reader, or guest.  Guest book attendant is a shiit job, not an honor, which is what you should be thinking of these rolls as. 

Viczaesar

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No, that's a terrible idea.  Grunt work is not something you should assign anybody at your wedding.  If you're not going to honor your friends as bridesmaids or readers, let them be guests and actually enjoy the day rather than giving them busywork.  None of those things you mention need somebody to manage.

goobersinlove

Your WP's only responsibility at the wedding is to stand next to you at your ceremony and smile for pictures.  Do not give them "jobs" at your reception - they want to enjoy that time too.

If you're worried about guests getting confused about your guest book idea, then you need to rethink your guest book idea - it should not be complicated to the point of needing someone to manage/keep track of it.

mds52088

Okay. Thanks for the advice guys!

LeshT

What about a hostess or one of the ushers?

librababy

They won't have any jobs per se.  I have a helper the day of the wedding acting as my DOC so she will be able to guide guests to their escort cards, the sign in 'book', etc... I will have signs too though so she's not standing there the whole time.

mds52088

I have asked my good friend to be my personal attendant/lady in waiting to help with those "little" things during the day and she was thrilled. I figure I might ask someone else to spend about an hour before the wedding (and only that hour) making sure everyone gets where they need to be and help my guests to know what they need to be doing. (The flow of my wedding is going to need a little guidance since both the ceremony and the reception are at the same venue)

blgrout

Other than the standard WP members (BM, GM, flowergirl, ringbearer and ushers), we also had 2 readers and 2 of my friends bestowed themselves with the title of BIC (b*tches in charge) since they were essentially my day of coordinators.

banana468

I can't imagine someone being happy to be a personal attendant.  I'd feel so sad that I wasn't a BM if I was asked to be the unpaid personal assistant for the day.   It's like being the last picked for dodgeball.

saric83

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[QUOTE]I can't imagine someone being happy to be a personal attendant.  I'd feel so sad that I wasn't a BM if I was asked to be the unpaid personal assistant for the day.   It's like being the last picked for dodgeball.
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I can totally see your point, but I've been a personal attendant multiple times, and I was genuinely always happy and thrilled to be there!  It was usually situations where I wasn't nearly as close with the bride as the BM's or where they had just family as BM's, and I truly never felt bummed about it.  I was just happy to be there to help in any way and honestly, relieved to not be paying hundreds out to be in the wedding party.

BUT you have to know your circle, individual personalities for this to work out okay since I can completely understand why it wouldn't feel good to a lot of people.  I just wanted to throw out the alternative view for balanced perspective..... : )

squeakyduck

My bridesmaids' job was to stand there and look pretty in front of the church with me. They also hung out with me while we got ready because they're my best friends. 

Oh and I guess my MOH also adjusted my train, held my bouquet, and hung on to my husband's ring. But mostly she looked pretty.